Modelicious Cole Monahan

There aren’t many guys that can carry off long hair and look good, but the sharp jawed Cole Monahan certainly can. The Tennessee native has recently signed with Elite Model Agency which almost guarantees a level of success in the industry. Cole is a 6’2″ blue eyed country boy growing up on a farm in Tennessee which has apparently given him a good work ethic to propel him in modeling.

He came to my attention on Instagram a while ago which is where all the hot men seem to be found. According to his facebook he is in a relationship but there are no details on the gender of his partner so forgive me if I just project my desire and pretend it’s a guy that looks just like me. Sadly I think I’m completely mistaken.

Cole has done some great shoots with people like Scott Teitler baring his perky fuzzy butt in a Ice Hockey Locker Room shoot as well as wearing some seriously cool fashion in other shoots. The tousled curly long hair just making him look even more adorable especially combined with his cheeky grin. I’ve always been and always will be a sucker for a cheeky grin and sparkly eyes.

Now showing!

Last night in Melbourne the group exhibition Company of Men opened to large crowds and for at least one of the 21 artists, lots of sales. Sadly that wasn’t me. There are a very diverse range of artists with painting, prints, photography and some 3D artwork on display all featuring male flesh and sexuality as their theme. The lovely and raunchy Rogan Richards did another wild performance in “The Pit” at the gallery.

Unfortunately I am in Sydney so couldn’t be there but my works are up on the walls featuring the lovely Greg and Kane who let me throw a sheet and water all over them. When you present work for viewing you have to tell people what your inspiration was and what you are trying to say. Quite often I have no idea. With my Shrouded exhibition I didn’t really realise that I was exploring my insecurities with hiding behind things until I was about half way through the series. When it came to working out what I was trying to say with this series of six images once again it wasn’t immediately obvious.

The statement that I sent with these images was this. “A lot of my previous work has explored the face that we present to the rest of the world and how we hide our own insecurities or flaws behind a kind of mask to go through life. With this series I wanted to flip that and explore the perceptions from the outside of a relationship and the assumptions we make about people’s relationships and how they live within them. By hiding a couple underneath a wet sheet we get a distorted view of what’s happening in the sheets without really knowing. Unless both people (or all the people) in a relationship tell you how their sex life is run, then are only working on assumptions or your perception of it from the outside.

Company of Men runs at Brightspace Gallery, St Kilda until February 7.

January Gymspiration

Working out at the gym without a gym partner is taking some getting used to but it’s not actually the working out that has been a problem for me. I’m finding it tough to motivate myself to go without someone waiting for me but so far I’m doing it at least three times a week, usually four. Now that I’ve committed to the fitness challenge I need to stick to it. With the challenge and the prospect of sailing nude through Croatia, the motivation is there. I’ve also committed to doing a routine at the circus school end of term show and it will be the first solo in over three years so I need to make sure I’m strong enough and fit enough to do it.

With all that in mind, today I went up to the sports store near work and bought a skipping rope so that I can start with 5-10 minutes of skipping at the end of a workout each day. Getting on a treadmill just isn’t happening at the moment but I don’t mind skipping every now and then so skipping it is, just more often.

When I weighed myself a couple of days ago I wasn’t happy with the number that popped up on the screen. With nights out over Christmas and New Years and pub meals / beers with friends I’ve put on about half a kilo which isn’t what I want. Training harder with weights I may have put on a little bit of muscle but there is still some soft “insulation” that needs to go.

For myself, Barak and Sean, and anyone else that wants to join us in the Fitness Challenge, here are some naked hotties with beautiful bodies to serve as gymspiration.

So very true

Especially after last night’s Scruff standup, this video about people’s behaviour on Grindr etc is spot on. All the complete bullshit that people put in their profiles is called out. Masculine, of course (not). I’ve never quite understood lying on a profile like that. Surely when someone meets you expecting one thing, when you turn out to be completely different do you expect them to still sleep with you?

Never fail to disappoint.

Tonight I’ve had my faith in mens ability to disappoint reaffirmed. Whether it’s a Sydney thing, a gay thing or just a men thing is open for discussion but I can only really speak of the Sydney dating scene and what I would say is not complimentary.

I was chatting to a guy over the last week on Scruff. He had a nice profile with a lot of interests and a couple of lines that made me laugh. People that make me laugh have so much more going for them than someone with a million instagram likes on their selfie. We organised a few days ago to meet tonight for a drink. I tried to confirm on Scruff yesterday and again today but he was offline and no trace of being online. An hour before the time we were supposed to meet I said to a friend that I thought I was being stood up. Sure enough, Mr Scruff has not been seen tonight.

Are people really that deluded that they believe that by writing “down to earth” or “I don’t play games” on their profile that it makes it fact? We’ve all come across guys whose profile clearly is all a big fat lie. They say they are masculine when really they are camp. They say they are down to earth when they are really a typical scene game player. What are they trying to achieve?

Maybe dating and relationships are just a thing meant for other people.

Even we don’t like the messages we get!

Dear lord, sometimes as a collective we gays wonder why people don’t take us seriously or are grossed out by what they think we do in bed. This video, while not as funny as the women reading grindr messages, really highlights just how random some guys are on the apps and how even guys with the most out there fetishes have no fear of putting it all out there. I guess behind the relative anonymity of a phone screen you can put it out there and if someone takes the bait, then why not? A friend of mine who is in a monogamous relationship has grindr on his phone when he travels for work. He showed me his profile, there is no photo and no information. He uses it just to be a bit of an observer. People message him hitting him up for sex. WTF? I cannot understand the complete lack of self respect you must have to hit someone up for sex when you have no idea of any facet of their existence. None.

Watching these guys react to some of these messages is funny, mostly because we’ve all had messages like these.

Lightning strikes at AussieBum!

I’ve always really liked aussieBum and we all know that. I’ve posted about them plenty of times over the years. They’ve just released their “Lightning” range of underwear featuring some cool checked patterns in different colours. It comes in briefs, hipster briefs and LONG JOHNS!!!! I’ve always known thatĀ aussieBum would do long johns well when they did them and they haven’t disappointed. There are other companies doing long johns and I’ve bought a couple of them for Burning Man but they were ludicrously low in the hips and overtly “pouchy” which I’m not fussed on.

The lightning long johns look seriously comfy to potter around the house in when it’s cold outside. I’d even be tempted to give them a run at circus class if I thought I wouldn’t ruin them.

Lightning from aussieBum on Vimeo.

Sean is joining in!

This morning in my inbox there was an email from Sean who is going to take part in the Fitness Challenge. He used to live in Queensland Australia but now lives in Manchester England. Sean wants to lose about 10kg which is a very achievable goal in the four months or so of the challenge. Good luck Sean!

Barak is up for the challenge!

Last week I posted about the fitness challenge. It is partly to motivate myself and partly to help others find some inspiration. The first person to take up the challenge is Barak who lost 20lb a couple of years ago and who is now looking to bulk up with muscle using a personal trainer and healthy eating. Good on you Barak! Thanks for joining in.

So far it’s just Barak and myself but I think we need some others to join in! If you want to be a part of it, send in your “before” photos as soon as you can.

It’s all good

Matthew Bomer took out the Best Supporting Actor for his role in The Normal Heart at the Golden Globes recently and in his acceptance speech he thanked his husband and children, using the words “my husband”. Now the performing arts have always been filled with LGBT people but there is still a lot of fear amongst some closeted actors that if their sexuality is revealed it will ruin their careers. For some it would become a Mission Impossible (cough cough). So for Matthew to be so public about his sexuality and for it to not even gain one negative article (from what I’ve seen) is a huge sign that we are getting there.

The fact that movies like The Normal Heart are being made and made well is a sign that we’ve come a long way. Back when the movie Philadelphia was made in 1993 it was a brave movie. At the time it got some criticism for the complete lack of affection shown between the lead characters, a gay couple. The criticism these days would be overwhelming and probably ruin the movie’s chance at success. The same criticisms have been leveled Modern Family’s lack of affection between Cam and Mitch.

There is a fantastic array of LGBT people who are openly gay in Hollywood these days pushing boundaries with sexuality and equality. For me, it’s the wholesome clean cut guys like Matthew Bomer that are going to make things more “palatable” for the conservative masses. The amazing drag queens, trans men and women and in your face queens that rioted at Stonewall have been the warriors who’ve broken down walls and fought hard for rights but it’s so easy for the conservatives to dismiss the more flamboyant characters in our community because they can’t relate to them. Guys like Bomer and women like Ellen Degeneres who aren’t confronting and middle America can imagine sitting at their dinner table are a valuable part of the equation too. Middle American mothers might even be able to picture their gay son bringing someone like Matt Bomer home for Thanksgiving. I’ll picture him doing other things.

A gorgeous man

When I posted about the Tub Time With Tate series a few days ago, I mentioned that I’d found him through a model on Instagram. Kim David Smith is that model. He’s a gorgeous Aussie guy living and working in New York. He’s a singer, cabaret performer and of course, model who fills his instagram with his modeling work. I’ve been lucky enough to chat with Kim briefly and hopefully when he’s in Sydney we’ll be able to collaborate on a shoot.

To be able to capture Kim’s classic good looks and stunning physique would be a real pleasure and I’d like to thing we’d come up with some great images. His look is so striking and classic you can almost imagine him stepping out of a fighter jet in a World War II era film and sweeping the leading lady off her feet.

The images below are just a few from Kim’s session for the Tub Time With Tate series.

Soaking in beauty

Instagram has become quite a playground for discovering talent for me lately both the eye candy and the photography variety. There is a model I started following a while back who poses for painters and photographers and following one of his links I stumbled across a photographer called Tate Tullier. He is working on an ongoing series called Tub Time With Tate and anyone is eligible to model for the series. If you are going to cross paths with Tate and you are willing to get nude and wet and sign over the rights to the image, you are in.

The series has a beautiful array of gorgeous people in various bathtubs in a few different cities in the U.S. and they are absolutely beautiful and intimate. For me, being in water whether it’s the ocean, a shower or a bathtub is a relaxing experience and even though there are some familiar faces on the website, they are unlike any other photos of that person. Maybe it’s the relaxing familiarity of bathing that inspires everyone to let down their guard. None of the photos are full frontal but they show a vulnerability in their subject.

If I was anywhere near Tate I would put my hand up in a flash.

Is good not enough?

It could be a problem stemming from social media or just an evolution of society but it seems that good is no longer enough. Facebook will show you that even though you can “like” something with a push of a button, saying you like something or that it’s good, just doesn’t cut it.

A “Like” button makes it so easy to flatter someone when we really can’t be bothered that it’s diminished the meaning even though people crave “likes” as a validation and without enough of them you aren’t enough of a person (allegedly). Reading the comments on any particular post on just about any form of social media, every single one of them is a complete over exaggeration of any emotion. No longer can we say we don’t like that or it’s not our taste. We have to now say that it’s the worst ever or the ugliest thing ever seen.

The same goes for good comments. That’s really good or well done just doesn’t seem to give the right impression of adoration for someone you don’t bother communicating with in the real world. Photos are “amazing” or “the best thing I’ve ever seen”. Nowadays you can’t be just a bit excited, you have to be “OMG I’m totally dying right now”.

On Model Mayhem the comments are quite amusing to read. Terrible photos get a “great capture” or “amazing shot” just because the guy in the photo has his cock out or something about the photo tickles the viewer’s fetish boneĀ® even though the photo itself may be absolutely horrendous from a technical perspective.

In the real world my good friends, you know the ones whose opinions should really count, are the ones that will tell me honestly that I’m being an idiot or my photos are ok but this one’s a bit shit. That’s the good stuff. They’ll give me a pat on the back when I deserve it and a kick in the arse when I need that too. Can we dial down the drama and stop buying into social media validation please?

P.S. If this post doesn’t get like a gazillion comments I’m going to be so totally devastated.

Amazing, simple and beautiful

This video is an antidote to the depressing nature of the last post. I saw this video last week and even though it’s nearly 8 minutes long, it had me mesmerised. Michael Grab is an artist that has developed an amazing skill for balancing rocks in seemingly impossible arrangements that defy gravity. There is no trickery here. No glue, strings or other deception keeps the rocks balanced, just skill and I imagine a lot of patience.

According to his website it started for Michael as a whim in 2008 and has become his form of meditation because of the peaceful surroundings and the patience and calmness that is needed. The arrangements are beautiful and he’s also filmed and photographed them beautifully.

A trail of destruction

Is it human nature to want to destroy things if we can’t have them or don’t want them anymore? Today I was talking to a guy that I don’t really know very well about relationships. I’d been told he is pretty much that guy that is determined to be single. After today’s conversation that is definitely true. He had been very happy being single for years but not long ago ended up in a relationship that hasn’t worked out. Today he was calling himself “damaged goods” and determined to never be in a relationship again. Thankfully for him, he is a very sexual guy and more than happy to have a lot of casual sex and get his emotional stuff from friends.

My emotional bruising from a relationship several years ago had the opposite effect. He wasn’t ready for a relationship so rather than take the healthy approach and have a discussion, he decided that crippling my sexual confidence was the way to go. That was a long time ago and while it’s still a problem, it’s slowly getting better. Unlike my friend, being hurt has for me only reinforced my knowledge that I want an affectionate monogamous relationship. Maybe part of that is because in my head it will prove that I’m “Good enough” which is something I haven’t felt in a long time.

Back to my question at the start of this post. Is it human nature to have to hurt someone when we break up with them or to avoid being with them? Or is it something we learn because people have done it to us? This is why we can’t have nice things.

I’m always a little envious of those people that end up with their first love because they never have that baggage from horrendous dating and breakups. Can we all agree to just treat each other nicely from now on? Please?