That’s equality

In the 18 years since I came out to my family, every now and then I’ve been a little put out that my mother never asks if I’m seeing someone or how things are going. Then I realise, she doesn’t do that with anyone. My mum is pretty old school. She has very strong opinions about things but she keeps them to herself. She’s not one to make waves nor.. Read More

It seems to be a rule

As the world gets more and more prudish in some ways, the disappearance of open showers at gyms for instance, it would seem that tv shows are trying their hardest to go the other way. Dating shows in particular. If you watch any of the versions of Dating Naked, or Adam Seeks Eve, around the world and especially in Europe you’d be forgiven for thinking they have a rule about.. Read More

Can it happen?

When my most recent dating situation was called off, the guy said that he wanted to catch up as friends. So far that hasn’t happened and I’m not sure it will. I hope it does. He’s a genuinely nice guy. One of my friends in particular has lectured me on not becoming his emotional punching bag. She thinks it’s a terrible idea to catch up. The whole situation has me.. Read More

I wonder why

With the events of the past week I’ve spent a lot of time in my own head which is not always a good thing. Something I’ve wondered a lot over the years is why those of us that are single always feel like we are the only ones that can’t find someone special? Over my many years of being single I have wondered why I can’t find someone when it.. Read More

Once again…

This is the second time I have written this post. The first attempt was yesterday and it was very angry and ranty. I’ve now calmed down and am going to write it again in a more rational tone. Over the past few weeks I’ve been on a few dates with a guy that I met on Scruff. We got on really well and there was a real ease and comfort.. Read More

I made a terrible mistake

Anyone who reads this blog must know that I’m essentially solar powered. I’d rather be in baking heat than cold weather any day. If the weather has to be cold the dear lord don’t let it be cold and wet. As a result, this brutal onset of winter always puts me in a slump. We had a really mild Autumn here in Sydney and every year jokes go around about.. Read More

Dodged a bullet

Yesterday I was perusing Scruff looking for a little bit of fun, as you do. I started chatting to a guy and he seemed keen so I asked where he was. He just kept coming back with more dirty talk, never giving an address. This went on for too long and I just ended up saying “Sorry, but if you were really keen you’d have given me an address.” Then.. Read More

A touch of contradiction

My neurosis, fence sitting and general indecision has been chronicled a lot over the 11+ years that Aussielicious has been torturing you all with my ramblings. Not one to put a huge amount of stock in star signs, my Libran tendencies do however seem to be very strong and cliched at times. There are times when my mother, the only non-Libran out of my immediate family gets incredibly frustrated with.. Read More

Go with your gut?

Anyone who uses the “dating” apps like Grindr and Scruff will know that successful encounters are great but not all that common. Even the ones that aren’t bad can be pretty average at times. Obviously there are some great encounters but tonight I’m talking about the ones that aren’t. Over the bajillion years that I’ve been single at times I’ve listened to my gut and opted out of a hookup.. Read More

Happy Valentine’s Day

Here in Australia, it’s already that very conflicting day, Valentine’s Day. Where single people are a little bit glum, new couples are smug and over the top and couples that have been together for a while are over it and don’t care. This Valentine’s is a weird one for me this year. For the first time in my adult life I’m single and perfectly happy with it, but I also.. Read More

Hold Tight

One of Australia’s banks, the ANZ has been a long supporter of the Sydney Gay & Lesbian Mardi Gras and LGBT rights in general. Yesterday they released a new campaign in the lead up to Mardi Gras called Hold Tight. It highlights just how far we have to go to feel equal. We still don’t have marriage equality in Australia and people are still not always safe holding hands in.. Read More

Keep your business.

Anti-discrimination laws exist for a reason and although it feels like Mr Trump seems hell bent to allow religious based discrimination in the US at this stage it’s illegal. Reading a story online today about a gay Canadian couple who are naming and shaming a wedding photographer who refused them on religious grounds, I just found myself thinking “why would you want them to photograph your wedding if they are.. Read More

Brenton’s introduction service

This post is going to come across as a bit pathetic and whiny but I promise it’s not meant to. Several years ago I posted a few times about the fact that I am pretty convinced I’m a carrier for the Love Ebola. I’m only a carrier because I never seem to be infected with love, just seem to infect friends of mine into loving each other. Sometimes it’s just.. Read More

You just never know!

Yesterday I found out that someone I know has been suffering with some pretty serious mental health issues. He is in a really bad place at the moment and while I don’t know him well, I felt compelled to reach out to him. We have known each other for several years now and while we’ve never been close, there is a mutual respect for each other. Obviously I’m no mental.. Read More

So that’s how it is?

“Ghosting” is defined in the urban dictionary as “quietly disappearing from someone you’ve met on an online dating site.” I would argue that it’s not just for those people you’ve met on dating sites. I’ve been ghosted by people I thought were friends who just stopped responding to messages. I’ve also been guilty of doing the same thing. To be fair, on both sides of the situation it’s happened with.. Read More