I have some questions

Every now and then you listen to something and it raises a question or two. Nothing earth shattering but more like a little statement or something that just niggles at you.

Madonna, Justin and Timbaland. Three of music’s powerhouse figures at the moment. With that much power and cred why did they call the song “4 minutes to save the world” and then release a radio edit that is 3 minutes and 12 seconds?

The Carly Simon classic “You’re so Vain” has always annoyed me. “You probably think this song is about you, don’t you?” Well clearly it is about him. Duh. If you are going to write a song about someone, don’t get stroppy with them if they think it actually is about them.

Leona Lewis is a new face/voice on the scene, but her song “Bleeding love” has been played to death here on the radio, and I wanna know just how long someone can keep hemorrhaging and still have the strength to sing about it?

Hanging with friends


Friday night saw 8 of us get together for our second nude drinks night on Friday night. This time we were smart enough to include food in the mix. It was a really nice bunch of guys and the people that had been totally intent on an orgy situation last time weren’t invited back. The mood was chilled, conversation flowed easily and it was a great night. Sadly the weather is getting colder here in Sydney so I don’t know how many we’ll have in  the next few months, depends on the heating I guess.

I kinda miss it

While I was away last weekend I saw some surf boat crews training off the local beach and it made me miss the action. This video from aussieBum, great sponsors of the action, shows the fun, adrenaline, the excitement, thrills and spills of surf boat rowing. If it didn’t take over your life, I’d be back into it in a flash. It’s also a bloody good perve

Boy about town TV #3

This is the third episode of Boy About Town TV with Michal Nichols. This time he’s enlisted the help of Brendan Burt, who was one of the hotties in last years livesavers Mardi Gras float. He also happens to be a total sweetie.

Lacking discipline and motivation

The last several weeks I’ve barely got my sorry arse to the gym at all and it’s frustrating me just how little discipline I can have at times. Maybe now that I’ve got a few weeks off trapeze and silks I’ll have a bit more energy to get out of bed in the mornings.

Aussielicious Interview – HIV Doctor


A good friend of mine works as a doctor in the area of sexual health in the UK. He was kind enough to answer some questions on misconceptions and thoughts about HIV for me.

Clinics are now saying 6 weeks is the length of time after infection that a positive result will show up. Can it take longer?
The traditional ‘window period’ for testing after a specific risk is 12 weeks. However a large number of people who contract HIV have developed antibodies by 6-10 weeks. This has been known for ages. The test that we are discussing is the antibody test,however a viral load test can be positive within a week of the virus infecting someone.
The advice is the same as it always has been
1. HIV test but wait 12 weeks after the risk
2. Occasionally if someone is very anxious can do the HIV antibody test after 6-10 weeks as long as they know to come back at 12 weeks for a repeat test if the first test is negative
3. If someone is having a seroconversion illness we do a Viral load test which is different to the hiv antibody test and not done routinely.

I’ve been told that you will know when you are sero-converting by one person and by another that he didn’t have any idea. Does it affect different people differently?
Studies suggest seroconversion illness occurs in approx 20-30% of patients but the symptoms are very non specific and easily mistaken for a flu/sore throat/diarrhoea ie very common symptoms…which is the problem ,at their most infectious ,most people dont recognise or know they have HIV.

What is your opinion on the theory that there are people who are “immune” to HIV? I do occasionally see people who are having huge risk or long tem partners of known hiv infected partners who never got the infection themselves.

People are living longer and healthier without medication these days. Why do you think that is?
Hmmmmmm not sure we can make a general statement like that….people in Africa may not agree! Patients may be getting tested earlier and so,appear to live longer post diagnosis. In the early days of the epidemic,people were diagnosing in very late stage (AIDS) disease and die shortly after.

How many different strains of HIV would you estimate there might be out there now?
Apart from HIV 1 and HIV 2 , HIV 1 is subclassified into subtypes or clades,the list of wich is growing as different clades recombine and produce what we call recombinants. At the moment approx clades A-G exist plus an endless list of recombinant clades wich have not been classified as yet.

People still think it’s nearly impossible to catch HIV being the “top”. Do you have any statistics on infection rates for the varying sexual roles?
Check the following resource from http://www.bashh.org/guidelines.asp and click the second link under HIV to download a pdf.

go to table 2

Table 2 The risk of HIV transmission following an exposure from a
known HIV-positive individual
Type of exposure
Estimated risk of HIV
transmission per exposure (%)
Blood transfusion (one unit) 90–100
Receptive anal intercourse 0.1–3.0
Receptive vaginal intercourse 0.1–0.27
Insertive vaginal intercourse 0.03–0.09
Insertive anal intercourse 0.06
Receptive oral sex (fellatio) 0–0.04
Needle–stick injury 0.3 (95 CI 0.2–0.5)
Sharing injecting equipment 0.67
Mucous membrane exposure 0.09 (95 CI 0.006–0.5)

Is there any data on the percentage of the gay population currently living with HIV? Seroprevalence in london suggests 15-20% of all gay men london are positive. Not too sure in sydney…check the ASHM website

To be scene and not heard?

It’s funny, writing this blog I think I’m giving a fair representation of myself. There are elements I will leave out for privacy reasons and others so I don’t bore you  to death.

I had an email while I was away, that I’ve just read, from a reader “Tom”  who said that I was going to have to get out of the scene before I meet anyone and that it seems like I’m quite wrapped up in the gay scene. I’m actually surprised by that statement as my friends are always trying to get me out on the scene more. I don’t feel comfortable in the gay scene all that much so rarely venture into the more popular gay bars. Sure I’m doing pole dancing at a gay bar with gay men and most of my close friends that I see regularly are gay but that is actually a big change for me from  a couple of years ago when most of my close friends were straight couples.

It’s fascinating that people can get such a different impression of me from my blog than I think I’m giving and different to what I think is accurate.

I’m back from “holiday”.

Family holidays like the one I’ve just walked back in from aren’t what you’d call relaxing. There’s just too many people, especially young children, to be relaxing but they are good for the heart and soul. I’ve grown up with these two other families and even though most of the “kids” have very little in common these days we all still get on famously, mostly because of the 30+ year history.

There’s lots of joking around, drinking (alcohol is good for making kids seem less noisy), laughing, chatting, catching up and just hanging out. People think it’s strange that I still go away with my family at the age of 34 but I wouldn’t miss it for the world. And no, there wasn’t any nudity or dolphins like the pics. Sorry.

5 nights of relaxation?

Today I’m heading up the coast about an hour and a half for the traditional family easter getaway. Our family, along with two other families, who are more like family than my real extended family, have been going away together at easter since all our parents were newlyweds.

We’ve been going to a seaside town for the last few years because it’s simple now that my sister and some of the other “kids” have children of their own. It’s not particularly exciting but we have a really good laugh. It’s like a soul food kinda break.

So the blog will be kinda quiet til I get back on Tuesday as I won’t have any internet access.

Acqua Di Gio Licious

This ad has been playing here on Australian television lately and I personally think it’s one of the hottest ads around. It would be better if he were swimming nude instead of in jeans but I’ll take what I can get.

Smitten with an idea?


We’ve all done it. We’ve met someone and after just a few brief meetings you entertain all sorts of ideas of candlelit dinners, Labradors and happily ever afters all before you’ve even had a decent conversation.

Is it the idea that they represent that you are smitten with, or is it that they genuinely tick off a lot of the boxes on your list? Maybe it’s a combination of both, but then what happens if you don’t get a chance to decide? There’s someone you meet that you’d love the chance to get to know, as friends, co-parent to a Labrador or just someone to catch up with for the odd coffee. Sadly, despite them having the means and knowledge to get in touch, they don’t seem inclined to do so. While you justify their lack of contact by imagining they’ve lost their fingers in a tragic cheese grater incident, the truth could well be that they just aren’t that into you.

Do you just let it go the way of my twin fantasy and be put away in the file of “wouldn’t it be nice?”

Modelicious – Joshua Sarrazola

Every now and then you see someone who just stops you dead in your tracks. I know this is a bit of a bandwagon post, as I’ve seen Josh on a few blogs around the traps lately but I just couldn’t help myself.

He has that striking mix of pretty but still masculine. The eyes I think I could stare into for hours, but I’d have to stop because I close my eyes when I kiss and I don’t think I could put off kissing those stunning lips for long. Josh is a stable-mate of our much loved Chad White over at Major Models.

Legal public gay sex?


An Alderman in Amsterdam has announced plans to legalise gay-sex in a public park, essentially because it’s always going to happen regardless of legality.

“Amsterdam’s beautiful Vondelpark in the centre of city draws hordes of summer visitors, families, skaters and joggers. But the park’s rose garden has become famous as a trysting spot for gay men looking for uncomplicated sexual encounters.”  Check out the full article here.

What naked context?


Another approaching nude dinner & drinks has thrown up a question for me. I invited a new friend who I know is comfortable nude and likes to be that way on the beach and around the house, with or without company. Yet he declined the invitation because a dinner and drinks in someone’s home was too intimate a setting for him.

Is there a “correct” setting to be naked with friends? Should we restrict it to the gym change room or the beach? Some of my friends I know, don’t get nude with friends at all, just with lovers or alone. Personally, if it’s not making anyone uncomfortable, it’s legal and others might join me, I’ll be nude.

How cool is this?

Take two cute gay twins, throw in an acoustic guitar, a reworked pop song and you get this! We love it.