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Are they out there?

Last week I found an old photo of me on the nude beach taken by a mate in Noosa. It was taken several years ago with my full permission and I have put it online on nudist sites and dudesnude but those are sites that are supposedly protected by logins. Now I’m not naive enough to think they aren’t going anywhere and I haven’t put anything on the internet that I care about people seeing ultimately. Sure, there are some people I don’t want to see them but I don’t think my family are on nudist sites or hookup sites so I’m pretty safe.

So when my photo popped up on Nooddood last week I wasn’t bothered. Nor was I bothered when a friend sent me a screenshot of the same image in his tumblr feed. Thankfully, nor was my friend as we have hung out at the nude beach as well.

It got me thinking though, about how many people have found possibly compromising images of themselves online that they weren’t aware were out there. Like me, you might have known the shot was taken and may have even posted it somewhere but thought it was under a little protection. Was it a problem or did you shrug it off?

A nice change of pace

Some people say I’m too restrained on the blog and others say I post too much about private things. To me, I post what I want and what I need to. Some people would say this post is in the over-share category but I’m a bit of an open book generally.

Since my birthday I’ve been making a conscious effort to stop the negative self talk and to try and rediscover my confidence. There has been some flirting online with a young guy and with the new approach to life I’m not listening to the little voice that wonders why a 22 year old with an incredible body wants to have some fun in the bedroom with me. Instead I’m going with it. Up until recently my mojo was lost, declared to be dead and gone forever. By this evening it was not only found, it had a pulse and it was ready to go.

Who knew that when those voices in your head speak, you don’t have to listen? My approach now is going to be exactly like when my mother is lecturing me about something or other. Nod and smile then do exactly what I want. If that happens to be really hot fun sex with a 22 year old, who am I to say no?

This year of me being 41 is starting to look up.

A cheeky self portrait

Another self portrait has come in from Leo, a long time reader of Aussielicious and long time nudie. Leo must have had a lot of luck or patience to use the timer and get this shot. It’s a great shot with his beautiful deep tan against the bright blue of the water.

If anyone is thinking of entering the challenge but hasn’t decided yet, I say do it. Take a chance and send in your self portrait. The more artistic and creative the better.

Who has the time?

Brian Lewis popped up on the DNA Blog and has just won the voting for the first week of October for the most popular guy on the blog. Maybe it’s me getting older but Brian doesn’t look like he could be any more than about 25 years old which begs the question, HOW does a guy that age get a body like that? No doubt there are hours and hours in the gym per week and a ridiculous dietary regime to go with it.

That brings me to the next question. When do these guys actually go and enjoy LIFE? Yes I’m sure they love working out and the results that it’s very evidently getting them but that’s a fairly narrow lane to live life in. Health and fitness are important but a friend and I were discussing just the other night, that just about every gay man we know and an increasing number of straight men have a very warped view of what constitutes a regular body and a good body. These are amazing bodies and it’s almost impossible to maintain this kind of body all the time. Fitness models get very lean for shoots and it’s unhealthy low levels of body fat.

People often accuse me of being shallow because I photograph beautiful men and, like everyone, love to look at hot men. I’m human. It’s very normal, but if I ever meet someone and start dating I don’t want to go out with someone who only eats dry chicken breast, broccoli and brown rice. I want a man who enjoys a night at the pub or sitting on the lounge with a glass of wine and spending time with me, not obsessing about the separation in his quads and definition in his delts.

PS. What does he have stuffed in those red shorts? That doesn’t look natural.

Are you a Stoneman?

There is a relatively new Aussie underwear brand on the scene called Stonemen. It’s for guys and girls and they are looking for new faces/packages to be in their promotional material. I posted this video a while ago when I first saw it but it’s such a cool video. You all know my feelings about friends being comfortable nude together and a bunch of friends skinnydipping being used to advertise underwear works for me.

The underwear is cheeky and features some cool prints on the fabric to make it stand out from the crowd. Check it out and jump on in! If you check out their page they are giving out a $100 gift voucher if they like your photo in your stonemen undies and why you love them so much. If you want to be one of their models, let me know and I’ll put you in touch!

Stonemen Skinny Dip from stonemen on Vimeo.

Do you know how this works?

Today on twitter, one of the 5 porn models in the shot above tweeted “Hate it when people repost my old nude photos especially @ing my name in it… Just a heads up… Please don’t do it with my photos” Really? I’m sorry mate, but do you know how the internet works? Once you have an image online, you lose control of it. It’s out there to be shared and shared again.

If someone is going to do porn with the hopes that no one sees it or uses the image then they are a little bit misguided about how it all works. I don’t think he had a problem with anyone seeing his image but of COURSE people repost it and surely it’s better to do it with credit for who it really is than pretending it’s someone else? Ironically it’s the guy with the lowest online profile that is the once complaining.

It’s a fine line

We all know lot’s of people in relationships. There are guys that are in and out of relationships all the time and others who stay in relationships for ages. Everyone acts differently in relationships. You have to. For most people it’s small compromises on both sides of the relationship and it keeps things going in a healthy and happy way.

Every now and then you see someone who completely sacrifices huge chunks of their life to keep their partner happy. I’ve seen guys give up things they love doing so as to not rock the boat with their boyfriend. Surely if you have to give up things you love to keep someone happy then they don’t really love you for who you are? Of course there are exceptions. If you love doing heroin or being a serial killer, I’d say there are benefits to abandoning those habits.

As someone who hasn’t really had a long term relationship I haven’t had to do much compromising. My last boyfriend couldn’t get his head around my nudist tendencies at all but he never asked me to stop and nor was it really involved in the breakup of our relationship. If we’d stayed together there may have had to be more discussions. As with most relationships, each couple has to find their own balance.

I’m not sure why I’m posting about this tonight but as a single man looking at relationships from the outside it’s interesting what you notice that someone inside it may not.

Two more self portraits.

Regular contributor to challenges and regular nudie David has submitted this hotel room self portrait for this challenge. Nudes aren’t a requirement but there is certainly no issue with them.

Scott sent in this self portrait which he’s taken all the colour from as he feels it represents the loss of his husband of 23 years. Sorry for your loss Scott.

A successful shoot!

Today was almost certainly the last shoot for the tribal series. Greg and Marty came along with open minds and a sense of adventure. Neither of the guys had met me before, as with lots of the guys I shoot. They know each other but had never seen each other nude before. When Greg arrived, Marty was already nude and covered almost head to toe in clay. The awkwardness didn’t last long at all and the guys were a genuine pleasure to work with.

This shoot has been in my head for months and it’s a real relief to have it turn out well, to remember all the poses I wanted to try and to get what I think are very successful shots. It’s also great when you work with models that you are keen to work with again and they are just as keen. Greg has a really chiseled and imposing presence. He’s tall, ripped and a genuinely nice guy. Marty is shorter, with a bubble butt that seems to defy gravity and a cheeky grin.

I’ve mentioned a potential stand alone piece for the exhibition which I’m now thinking could be related in theme and imagery but will be a self portrait of sorts. Doing that would go well with my journey to rediscover my self confidence and mojo.

Here are the first self portraits!

The self portrait challenge is off to a good start with the first two submissions arriving in my email overnight. I’ve posted about Curtis Speer’s photography before on Aussielicious and he’s submitted images in the past for challenges and just because. His work is varied, beautiful and moody. Beautiful and moody apply to this self portrait sent in by Curtis for this challenge as well. It sums up his work beautifully.

Kelly has submitted in the past for challenges before and he’s back with this simple nude on his bed.

Just a reminder for those submitting images, it is one entry per person. I don’t really want to take responsibility for someone not being happy with my choice.

You want me to what now?

A few weeks ago I was chatting with a model in the U.S. on model mayhem. He has an album on his portfolio that is password protected. Obviously I was going to ask him about it. Apparently it contains his nudes. I asked about having a look to which he suggested I could “tribute if I really want to.” I asked what on earth he meant and his reply was “you are supossed to tribute. Which means pay me for my amazing looks. People worship me. Seriously.” That is a direct quote, including the spelling mistake. Now worship, to me is reserved for religious figures and idols. Not celebrities, models, or even unknown wannabes like him.

If people worship him, how come he is a complete unknown? There is a growing trend online with people calling themselves “the official ….” or “THE ….” Really? I get the theory of faking it til you make it but I’m also a firm believer in humility. Genuine celebrities tend to get a lot of allowance for bad behaviour but people like Hugh Jackman never seem to forget where they came from and are very down to earth. THAT is class and much more worthy of worship.

Pretenders, keep pretending. If you make it big, I’ll be surprised.

Time for another Self Portrait challenge

It’s time for another photography challenge here at Aussielicious. Inspired by the things I have on the horizon and the introspection that goes along with making changes in life, I think it’s time we revisit the theme of self portraits.

The photos above are by the amazingly talented Alex Stoddard. Alex grew up in Jacksonville, Florida and began taking self portraits at the age of 16 which he’s evolved to creating beautiful works of art. As you can see from his website he’s expanded his view to include other people but I find the self portraits the most enlightening. How people choose to portray themselves in an image, whether it be accurately or not, is fascinating. I always feel that the people who are the most creative and unrestrained are the ones that are probably the most troubled or vulnerable and in touch with their emotions as well.

When you are creating your self portraits, try and think beyond just taking a photo of yourself. Share with us something more about you using the image. As usual the aim of the challenge is that your image will be won by the winner of the next challenge so you need to create images that people who don’t know you will find interesting and beautiful enough to put on their wall.

You have until the 9th of November, one whole month to get your submissions in via email at and please, nothing sexual. Nudes are ok but no erections or sexual activity. Keep in mind you need to be able to supply a decent sized print, say 8″x10″ if you win, so good quality resolution. Be creative gang!

Could it be?

This Sunday I’m shooting two guys at once for my tribal series. This will be the thirteenth shoot that I’ve done for this series over all. Two of the shoots won’t be included in the exhibition though. One because it didn’t really end up fitting with the tribal theme which was my fault as I hadn’t prepared for that shoot and fleshed out a concept properly. The other because it wasn’t a strong enough shoot and the model won’t let me use nudes online which is where all my marketing happens.

That leaves me with eleven usable shoots that I’m happy with, if Sunday’s shoot goes well. It will be the only shoot involving more than one model but it’s an idea that I’ve had in my head for a while now. As I don’t have a deadline to finish shooting this exhibition or actually stage it, there is room to shoot more images but once I’ve moved out of this apartment I lose access to the shooting space unfortunately.

I do have an idea for an image in the series that would be a stand alone piece and much larger but that needs more planning and thinking about. We’ll have to wait and see if that happens but it would be lovely if it did. It feels weird to have pretty much finished shooting for an exhibition without having one planned. Money is the issue at this stage but there are ways and means to get around that.

Let’s go below

I’ve never seen the show Below Deck on BRAVO but Kelley Johnson is a hot former marine that is on the show. On the show, Kelley is a deck hand who hails from Texas. As they say, everything is bigger in Texas and after I saw Kelley’s nude shot, I want to go below deck myself. He clearly keeps his rigging all ship shape and tidy, not a hair in sight. I’m quite fine with that, especially on a beautiful piece of rigging like that. He’s 27 and apparently not shy at all. Maybe it’s being out at see on a rocking boat but I really wish he’d hold that damn camera phone straight.

365 smiles

Today I turned 41 and it’s time for some changes. Sitting around catching up with a dear friend over the weekend that I haven’t seen in a few years, he gave me a gentle version of tough love. It’s time to cut the negative self talk, stop sabotaging myself and put myself out there.

My lack of confidence has become my armour. I don’t go out much to places where there are new people because I’m not confident anymore. I don’t have sex because I’m not confident. I didn’t rehearse my circus routine because I’m not confident. That’s rubbish. There’s only so long I can use past hurts as an excuse not to achieve or have a bit of fun. Yes there are very genuine insecurities there but they are holding me back now and there is no reason to let them.

A few years ago I had a conversation with my mother and something came up about me not being confident. Keep in mind that my mother is a firm believer in keeping your feet on the ground and not being arrogant in any way. When she realised that I had lost my confidence in a big way, even though she doesn’t know the ins and outs of why, she was shocked. My mother doesn’t throw compliments around willy nilly but she couldn’t fathom why or where I’d lost it. It was really nice to hear from my mother that she thought I had no reason not to be confident but it was also a bit of a surprise that even she was surprised how lacking in confidence I was.

So it’s time to shake things up. I’m going to do my best to post an instagram photo that makes me smile every day even if it proves rather challenging. I’m also going to do my darndest not to let my negative self-talk be the loudest voice in the room. As an extension of that, I’ve said I would do a performance at the end of next term for the open rig show. Time to get off my arse then! No more “I’m fat”. No more “I’m old”. I’m not. I’m 41, fit and healthy and I have a bloody good life.