Life constantly puts us all in situations where we rely on our gut instincts. Sure, we are influenced by experiences and education but gut plays a big part in making decisions, especially important ones.

What I want to know is, when it comes to dating or meeting someone, or even in other aspects of life, do you second guess your gut reactions?

A little while ago I posted about a guy I’d chatted to on Tinder. After two flakes I decided to unmatch with him, therefore cutting off contact. It seemed to me, that he was always going to flake and then there was my gut. Over the conversations we’d had I’d got the feeling that we didn’t really have much in common.

In the last few days he stumbled across me on Instagram and asked if he’d done something wrong. I told him about the concerns I had with him being a bit flakey. There’s no point not being honest right? He was keen to get another chance, in the distant future where we get out of isolation and wanted to keep chatting but my gut told me he isn’t a match.

My concern is that in the years that I’ve been single, am I using my gut instinct as an excuse when really I’m self sabotaging? To be honest, I don’t think I am in this instance but I wonder how many times I may have.