It’s always nice when your perceptions of the world are shaken up a bit for the better. That’s what happened to me on Saturday.

The guy I photographed on Saturday is doing his PhD. In exactly what I can’t remember but I know it has to do with HIV and the sexual behaviour of men around it. Obviously doing something like a PhD means a lot of research and one of the things he mentioned to me that he’d learnt in that research was that there is a pretty much 50/50 split between monogamous and non-monogamous relationships in the gay world. 

That really surprised me because the gay world feels to me like it celebrates non-monogamy and open relationships and even cheating sometimes over monogamy. It can seem like that is the ideal and monogamy is too “hetero-normative” to be attractive.

I’m not sure where this leaves me given I still don’t seem to have any luck with finding a date, let alone a monogamous partner but I guess it does raise my odds of finding someone who wants monogamy.