There are times in life when you need to have some difficult conversations with dear friends but those conversations are necessary and often good for you. This weekend I was out in the country with friends and we had some very big chats. I’d kind of anticipated them coming but it still didn’t make it any easier. This friend is a very dear friend of I think 16 years now and we have been able to have these conversations pulling each other up on some behaviour over the years when necessary, clear the air and move on.
Like all friends we have gone through phases where we haven’t seen each other as much as other times but I have no doubt we are stuck with each other as friends for decades to come and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Obviously I’m not going to share anything that I said to him but I am going to mention something he said to me. He reads this blog from time to time and he mentioned that lately, while there are some great posts they are scattered amongst a lot of posts where I seem to be writing more of a glass half empty point of view. He’s right. There have been a lot of times in the past 3-6 months where I’ve felt flat. There was a lot of stress around moving house. There is a period of adjustment to a new job and there is a bit of (self inflicted) pressure and stress in releasing a photographic download every week.
A few years back I was posting what I called a “Mining the clouds” post from time to time. These were posts where I looked for the silver lining in a situation and wrote about it. I think it’s time to bring that concept back. Maybe not naming the posts like that but keeping that attitude towards posting. I have no intention of faking a happiness that may not be there but I’m going to make a concerted effort to be a glass half full guy.
This is what friends are for.