If I get invited to a party or an event where I don’t know anyone I’m pretty talented at saying no. Over the weekend a work colleague took me to the birthday party of a friend of hers. He’s a gay man in his mid/late forties and at his previous parties, she said he had lots of single gay friends there.

So on Saturday night I met up with her, her boyfriend, his brother and another friend and had a drink before we all went to the birthday boy’s apartment.

There were precisely zero eligible gay men at the party. All the gay men were either in couples or of vastly different ages to me. We are talking 15 years older or younger. My colleague swears it was a very different party to the years previous that she’d gone to. 

It was very sweet of her to think of me and try to help my absolutely dire relationship status and in the end we all had a really fun night with lots of laughs which is a pretty awesome result.