Anyone who uses the “dating” apps like Grindr and Scruff will know that successful encounters are great but not all that common. Even the ones that aren’t bad can be pretty average at times. Obviously there are some great encounters but tonight I’m talking about the ones that aren’t.

Over the bajillion years that I’ve been single at times I’ve listened to my gut and opted out of a hookup and other times I have just told myself that I’m just nervous or being silly and it’ll be fine. These days I generally listen to my gut as it seems to be pretty accurate. There was a guy about 18 months ago who looked young in his photo but he didn’t have an age. He turned up on my doorstep in what looked like a school sports uniform but also carrying some roll-your-own cigarette tobacco. I asked him how old he was and he said 17. Now, it’s legal but it wasn’t comfortable so I sent him on his way. If I’d listened to my gut he wouldn’t have had to spend his time walking over to my place. Instead he could have done extra homework.

Then there are the times when you really can’t work out if you’re horny or bored. Instead of having a wank I have found myself cruising Scruff for someone to meet up with and it’s just not been good at all. Their photo was taken before they started their meth habit or maybe they just don’t like to hook up the same way I do. Many scenarios abound and sometimes I say give it a shot. You never know unless you try right? Maybe, maybe not. I’m going to stick with my gut instinct.