A friend of mine recently met someone and they were hanging out and enjoying a dating-lite scenario. They are keen on each other but not putting any labels on it, instead just seeing where things go. Hanging out before their first “sleep over” the new guy made full disclosure about his HIV status. My friend and I share the same opinion on HIV+ partners in that it’s just not an issue. The man in question is on medication and his viral load is undetectable so the chance of contracting anything is legitimately very close to zero. Nothing is infallible of course so my friend, as an added precaution is enquiring into going into the large PrEP trial that is going on here in Sydney.

My concern with PrEP is that too many men are using it as a tool to be able to have unlimited unprotected sex which isn’t how it is intended to be used, but each to their own. Everyone has to make their own decisions in life.

At the moment here in NSW it is a legal requirement for anyone who is engaging in sexual activity to disclose any sexually transmitted diseases that they have or may have. This is under review and has a very real chance of being scrapped. I genuinely don’t know where I stand on that one. While there is a lot of stigma still associated with HIV there is much less stigma attached to Syphilis or Gonorrhea and they are easily treatable for the most part. As I said earlier, I’m a firm believer in looking after your own health and you can’t just assume someone is free of STI’s just because they don’t tell you so why not protect yourself regardless? With that thought in mind, I don’t think it’s a bad thing to abolish the legal requirement to disclose. If someone wants to tell you, that’s awesome but we don’t know that it’s always going to happen.