This post has been brewing in my mind for a while now. The news that a vile “human” is trying to get to Australia to hold “masculine men only” tribal gatherings to promote “legal rape” on private property has tipped me over the edge today. Australia has revoked the visas of two similar guys holding seminars on how to degrade women into having sex with you so I’m optimistic that he will not set foot here. What terrifies me is that there are guys that agree with their revolting way of thinking. Would they like to see their mother or sisters treated the way they “aspire” to treat women?

A couple of months ago I had to explain the meaning of the word “feminist” to the female junior at work after she said “no way” was she a feminist. She believed that feminist women hated men and wanted nothing to do with them. When I explained that’s not at all what it means to be a feminist and that feminists just want equal pay, equal rights and equal treatment in all areas as men she looked stunned.

For me there has never been an alternative to being a feminist. It’s not in a militant way but more about how I go about my day to day life. My mother and father are equal partners in their marriage but my mother was around more as we grew up because she worked casually for a while and then school hours when she was full time. Never were we told “wait until your father gets home” to be disciplined. She sorted that shit right out. My mother and both my grandmothers had careers and distinct identities outside their marriages. My sister is a strong, independent woman who also has a husband and a happy marriage.

It’s a sorry example of a man that, to prop up his own self-worth, needs to demean, degrade and violate a woman. The world is only improved by women being equal in all ways. Governments need a more equal representation and if more heads of state were women, global politics would be less of a power-play pissing contest and maybe there’d be less conflict.

Maybe it’s because as a gay man I have no interest in trying to sleep with women that adds to this feeling of equality but my father, my grandfathers and my brother-in-law all share(d) my perspective and led by example to teach me how to treat women. With nothing but respect and fairness.