A friend of mine today admitted that he’d been pretty naive and cynical in the past about bisexuals. Not that he didn’t believe they existed but that a true bisexual is a very rare thing. Almost like a unicorn. His theory was that a lot of the women who say they are bisexual are trying to be cool or turn on a man and that men that say they are bisexual are really gay but not ready to say it yet, if ever. That theory on bisexual men is a very common one and one that frustrates me. He posted his thoughts, wanting genuine feedback, on facebook today and a couple of responses were interesting. One theory was that gay people were so threatened by bisexuals because they were afraid that if they admit a little wiggle room on their sexuality then why go through all the drama and stress of coming out?
My theory is that we see a lot more women being open to sexual freedom because straight men find women fooling around a turn on, as long as they get to join in, and women aren’t as threatened by other people’s sexuality so it’s not as taboo. Straight men see gay men or men who are happy to experiment with their sexuality as a bit of a threat to their own masculinity so react badly and condemn it. This is in very general terms and I think fluid sexuality is becoming much more acceptable as younger generations let go of the taboos and inhibitions of previous generations.
So I’m doing a poll. Which of the following options describes your sexuality the best? Please share this post and poll on facebook or social media. The more people that answer the poll the more accurate the representation will be.
What is your sexuality?
- 100% Gay (65%, 405 Votes)
- Somewhere between bi and gay (21%, 130 Votes)
- Pretty evenly attracted to both (6%, 39 Votes)
- Somewhere between straight and bi (5%, 31 Votes)
- 100% Straight (3%, 16 Votes)
Total Voters: 621