It seems oddly modest

Just to set the scene, this post is meant to be taken in the context that we are mostly gay men. As a man that loves physical contact of skin on skin and even just a really good hug, a massage is a pretty blissful experience for me. Generally we are nude for a massage and even with the draping of a towel or a sheet that most masseurs use you are pretty much nude and on display. So why do masseurs leave the room when you are getting undressed? They all seem to say they’ll leave the room for a moment and please undress and lie down on the table, then they come in and drape you.

As my friend pointed out when we were having the discussion, not everyone is as comfortable nude as we are. A lot of people might appreciate the sensitivity. That’s true but they are about to lather you in oil and see nearly every inch of you anyway while they massage you so it seems a little bit odd that they would leave the room while you undress. My friend that I was discussing this with has his own solution to the situation. He just starts undressing while they are discussing the massage and also lets them know that he doesn’t really care to be draped if it’s ok with them.

Considering my nudist tendencies it’s no surprise that I quite like the masseur to be nude too for the energy it creates between the masseur and the client. I don’t necessarily want a happy ending massage but there is an undeniable sensual energy created when both people are nude and sometimes it’s even better not to do anything with that energy, just have a regular massage that’s unhurried, relaxing and sensual. A nudie online buddy in Denmark had a massage from a nude masseur who also did a sexual prostate massage with release and the masseur was nude when my friend arrived. No beating about the bush there!

11 Responses to “It seems oddly modest”


  1. 1 Jon

    I’m not a massage therapist per se, but I do occasional manual therapy for patients who need it; I don’t know what healthcare demographics in Australia, but here the large majority of people who seek care are women, and most of them are a bit shy about disrobing in front of men, to say the least. I admit that massaging while naked myself would be nice if only for the fact that I wouldn’t get so hot, but I think the nature of my practice would have to change significantly for that to happen.

  2. 2 Cooky

    Hi brenton, would you recommend any male masseurs in syd who perform the massage in the nude. I’d like to try it, thanks.

  3. 3 D

    I am a massage therapist here in NYC and it is law that clients MUST be draped properly, that you leave the room while they undress, and you perform the massage in a professional manner. All it would take is for a client to complain sexual harassment and you will be fined and possibly lose your license. Even IF they asked for “extra” you DONT do it. New York State is very strict. However there are places where you can go, that are kinda underground, where things are more nude but those aren’t “professional” spas or clinics and everyone knows the deal.

  4. 4 Eric

    I love a good nude male massage just as you described, and I love my massage therapist. He’s a great (mostly straight) guy and gets naked too. After about 3 years of undressing separately, we finally started undressing together about 5 years ago. Funny it took us that long.
    Naked massage is so intimate and blissful – one more reason why it’s great to be gay!

  5. 5 Richard

    I think “D” hit on it here in the US. If one is a licensed massage therapist in the US, they must follow this code of modesty or risk losing their license. As a massage is being given, they are only allowed to uncover the specific body part that they are currently working on and at no point is the genitalia or buttocks allowed to be displayed/uncovered.

    Puritanical.

  6. 6 Tim

    I’m with you. I don’t get all the stuff about leaving the room and modestly draping. And I most certainly don’t understand why the masseur is dressed. My bloke pulls my jocks down anyway when he massages my gluteus and sciatic muscles. Where I come from everyone is naked is semi naked during a massage and that’s how I like it. They don’t seem to exist in Melbourne.

  7. 7 Ed

    I am a Certified Massage Therapist in California – my studio is in my home. I do not have a full time practice – and have a select list of clients I see on evenings and weekends as my personal time permits. I only take on new clients now through personal reference – do not advertise or have a website.

    This setups enables me to practice massage as I please. In my home studio, I only work naked and use no draping. My technique at home is to use my whole body in giving massage – it is an incredibly enriching experience for me – and needless to say my clients love it. Clothing and draping would be a hindrance to what I do best.

    While I have an intensely sensual bond with my clients – it is never a sexual one and I make that clear in my intake session with someone new. First – the studio is in my family home and I make clear boundaries as to what is acceptable. And I believe keeping the sexual energy in the body for massage enhances the healing experience and does a lot to renew our life force.

    And my clients never see me in clothes from the time I greet them until I bid them farewell. I do stay with them as they undress – help them as needed and use the time to check in as to how they are and what their needs are for our time together. As it is, I live with my husband and our two nephews – we are always totally bare at home. In our circumstances, would be disingenuous to dress at all and certainly gives me opportunity to tout the healthy benefits of nudity as well as stand up in my own way against the body shame in our culture.

    That said, am also a volunteer body worker for a local rugby team (gay-friendly but not in the gay rugby league). When I am at practices and matches, my techniques are certainly far more traditional but fortunately can operate within the realm of the casual attitude towards nudity in rugby. Lots of good stories there !!

  8. 8 Liam

    I’d imagine the theory behind leaving the room is that it is more relaxing for the patron to take his time and get himself ready without thinking the massage therapist is sitting there thinking “OK, OK, get on with it. Get undressed already – I have another client at 8:30!!” Just a theory.

  9. 9 Colin

    I do massage as a hobby and have a table etc. I always prefer to do the massage nude. You are right about the exchange of energy. It’s amazing for both parties. I can’t see the point in wearing clothes when giving a massage. (Yes I do understand the legal side of it all). When you come to Melb next I’ll give you a nude massage. It’s a clothing optional house as well with pvt sunning area.

  10. 10 Reggie Smith

    Generally am nude and not covered, while the masseur is dressed. Usually have them in my home. It’s really great having one when you don’t have to draped. Have a great young man who does a great job.

  11. 11 sfbarefeet

    I’ve been going to the same masseur for years. Luckily, he’s also a nudist and works from his home. It’s a non-release massage, but I don’t mind all parts getting attention either… I agree with Brenton, having the masseur naked adds to the energy of the moment.

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