Over the years that I’ve been maintaining Aussielicious I’ve learnt the hard way not to blog angry. Sometimes it’s a very hard rule to stick to. Last week’s Etiquette post got a couple of comments that riled me up a bit but I held my tongue and am posting now, a few days later with a clearer head.
One comment was very mild but suggested that the guy might not like being rebutted online. Fair enough to a point and last week’s date certainly wasn’t the main inspiration for my post. The other date was several years ago and I told him when he messaged me asking for a second date that there was less than a snowball’s chance in hell of a second date. Who announces that they have diarrhea, insults someone’s hairline and tells them they are rude for not shaving and then expects a second date. In my opinion, a bit of anonymous ribbing online is the least of his concerns.
The comment that really upset and pissed me off said that “beggars and choosers comes to mind” and called me “perpetually couple-challenged”. Re-reading the comment now, the tone isn’t as harsh as I initially interpreted it when I first read it, but the insinuation that as someone who has struggled to find the right guy and a relationship I should settle for what’s on offer, no matter how bad, is a bit offensive. Should I actually be content with someone who insults me and has no social skills at all, just for the sake of being in a relationship? No thank you very much. I would much rather enjoy my rather good life as a single man with great friends and family than lower my expectations to the point where I actually don’t care for the person I’m in a relationship with, just so that I can say I have someone.
I know relationships are hard to maintain and the fairytale is a very rare thing indeed, but I don’t think I could cope being in a loveless relationship just for the sake of it, and have to wait for my boyfriend to tell a dinner party that he’s got diarrhea. In fact, calling me a beggar would in fact imply that I would take anything on offer.