Five years ago James worked up the courage to come out to his father. His father didn’t take it well. A week after telling his father he is gay, James received the letter above. I’ve typed it out below so that it’s easier to read, but reading it this morning it was even harder to read as I was a bit teary towards the end. How on earth can a father tell his son never to come home? In the comments on the blog post where James posted his letter, there is an amazing letter from a man who has much more of an idea about being a good dad. Read that here.

“James: This is a difficult but necessary letter to write.

I hope your telephone call was not to receive my blessing for the degrading of your lifestyle. I have fond memories of our times together, but that is all in the past.

DOn’t expect any further conversations with me. No communications at all. I will not come to visit, nor do I want you in my house.

You’ve made your choice though wrong it may be. God did not intend for this unnatural lifestyle.

If you choose not to attend my funeral, my friends and family will understand.

Have a good birthday and good life.

No present exchanges will be accepted.

Goodbye, Dad.”

It’s taken James 5 years to post the letter online, but it has gone viral since he has. I cannot imagine how devastating it must be to be rejected by your family. I’m so glad that my family, even though there was a bit of a struggle with the topic, never thought about shutting me out of their lives.