Aussielicious

Wow, it seems you all do have some questions for me. Since I posted my formspring page there have been questions popping into my email all day. I’m answering them as best I can on Formspring but I will also try and post the questions and answers here on a weekly basis or so.

Have read your blog for a few years, and I’m often struck by how often you seem sad. There’s a sadness in your face, even when the photo is of you at a ‘happy’ time. How would you describe yourself on the happy/sad scale?
You aren’t the first person to say that and I see it sometimes in my photos too. On a day to day basis I’m pretty happy and when I’m with my family and good friends I am happy but I can’t seem to shake the feeling that there’s supposed to be someone along to share the ride.

What is the key to a good photo? What are the things to avoid?
Lighting is crucial. Get plenty of light but not too much. Avoid taking a photo of a subject just for the sake of it, try and find something interesting about it to capture.

So what do you look like? Have we seen that before on your blog and I missed it?
The photos of someone camping nude under an outdoor shower are me. I’m all through the blog including the shot in the elevator that was with the original formspring post.

Why did you wait until you were 25 for your first gay experience? (btw – I was 26 and probably wished it was earlier). Do you now wish it was earlier?
Because before that I didn’t realise I was gay. I’d repressed all those desires and attractions. I don’t think I was ready before that, so no, no real wishes that it was earlier.

What’s your view of Australia’s federal election results? It’s exciting political junkies in the English speaking world.
It’s annoying the hell out of me. I don’t follow politics much and get so frustrated that they spend so much money and time bitching at each other rather than running our country.

Have you ever been in love, if so how many times?
Sadly no. I’ve felt very strongly for people but not love. For a hopeless romantic like me it’s tough.

What is your favourite movie?
SO hard to limit it. Fight Club, Single Man, Shortbus, Moulin Rouge are all favourites.

When did you know you were gay and why didn’t you have sex earlier than 25. I love the way you write. And the way you look.
I had sex with girls when I was 23, but I don’t think I’ve ever had confidence in myself sexually or physically. I never think people find me attractive. I think looking back in hindsight I’d figured out I was gay at around 13, but managed to deny it to myself for years.

What’s your guilty food pleasure?
Too many to mention, but usually salty fries.

Why are friends so afraid to be naked in front of each other…it’s rather annoying considering 1) We are guys 2) We are gay 3) No one gives a shit.
I don’t know and I wish it wasn’t the case. Even amongst straight guys I don’t think it should be a problem, in fact that is less of an issue because they don’t have the awkwardness of sex getting involved.

In the Netherlands, children learn in school all about your country, the culture, the people… I wonder if you learned about Europe / the Netherlands as a child?
Unfortunately not really. We learned in very general terms about European geography, and bits and pieces about culture but more about the British history and how it came to create the Australian nation.
I wish we had learnt more about Europe.
How old were you when you had your first gay sex experience and what was it like?
I was 25. The first time was at the nude beach. It didn’t go past oral but I felt so guilty afterwards. I enjoyed it but felt like everyone in the street for days knew what I’d done.
The first time I went “all the way” with a guy was the first guy I dated and I loved it.