Comments on: Open letter to the American http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2010/02/03/open-letter-to-the-american/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:01:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: BuyAmerican http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2010/02/03/open-letter-to-the-american/#comment-5139 BuyAmerican Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:10:08 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=2261#comment-5139 Oh please get over yourself. You have your health, your looks, and judging by these comments, your friends. What more do you need. Oh please get over yourself. You have your health, your looks, and judging by these comments, your friends. What more do you need.

]]> By: Matty http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2010/02/03/open-letter-to-the-american/#comment-5109 Matty Fri, 05 Feb 2010 23:24:19 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=2261#comment-5109 Brenton, this is your blog (and a great one it is). The previous poster appears to think that you yourself need to analyse, rationalise and be both sides of every argument. But that is not why you're here. It's not why you're writing. It is, and needs to be all about you and your emotional progression. Continue to tell it how you see it, how you feel it and make no apologies as to how that appears. Brenton, this is your blog (and a great one it is). The previous poster appears to think that you yourself need to analyse, rationalise and be both sides of every argument. But that is not why you’re here. It’s not why you’re writing. It is, and needs to be all about you and your emotional progression.

Continue to tell it how you see it, how you feel it and make no apologies as to how that appears.

]]> By: Matt http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2010/02/03/open-letter-to-the-american/#comment-5102 Matt Fri, 05 Feb 2010 04:02:34 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=2261#comment-5102 Brenton, I'm sorry you got hurt, but, no, you haven't given back any of the emotional baggage. Judging from this post, you unpacked it, rearranged it a little, repacked it, and picked it right back up. It's one thing to blame someone for hurting you but - First, everyone gets hurt sometime, but short of extreme, long-term physical and mental abuse, not everyone turns it into a life-ruining experience. Second, until you take responsibility for your own part in it, you won't be able to heal. You picked him. You put up with one "not good" thing after another, instead of showing him the door - and believe me, a lot of people would have done just that after only one incident, and then wouldn't have tried to stay friends with him. That's not "behaving like adults" - that's being a doormat. It's a good sign that you're as angry as you are now. But you're still directing all of your anger at him and making him wholly responsible for who you are now. I can't help but wonder if you were really as happy and and free of insecurities before The American as you claim. Secure people don't put up with being treated this badly. In fact, people who don't treat others with respect are an instant turn-off to happy, secure people, not a challenge, or whatever this guy was to you. If you don't deal with your own part in this - figuring what first attracted you, and what kept you coming back for more - you're at risk for having history repeat itself. And no one who reads your blog regularly wants that for you. Brenton, I’m sorry you got hurt, but, no, you haven’t given back any of the emotional baggage. Judging from this post, you unpacked it, rearranged it a little, repacked it, and picked it right back up.

It’s one thing to blame someone for hurting you but -

First, everyone gets hurt sometime, but short of extreme, long-term physical and mental abuse, not everyone turns it into a life-ruining experience.

Second, until you take responsibility for your own part in it, you won’t be able to heal.

You picked him. You put up with one “not good” thing after another, instead of showing him the door – and believe me, a lot of people would have done just that after only one incident, and then wouldn’t have tried to stay friends with him. That’s not “behaving like adults” – that’s being a doormat.

It’s a good sign that you’re as angry as you are now. But you’re still directing all of your anger at him and making him wholly responsible for who you are now. I can’t help but wonder if you were really as happy and and free of insecurities before The American as you claim. Secure people don’t put up with being treated this badly. In fact, people who don’t treat others with respect are an instant turn-off to happy, secure people, not a challenge, or whatever this guy was to you.

If you don’t deal with your own part in this – figuring what first attracted you, and what kept you coming back for more – you’re at risk for having history repeat itself. And no one who reads your blog regularly wants that for you.

]]> By: jeff http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2010/02/03/open-letter-to-the-american/#comment-5100 jeff Fri, 05 Feb 2010 00:13:48 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=2261#comment-5100 benton, you are one hot man, based on the pictures that you have posted. I don't know you, but just based on looks, I would think your dance card would always be full. this guy sounds like one huge ahole that you should have dropped long ago, and moved on to something better. remember, it was him not you! benton, you are one hot man, based on the pictures that you have posted. I don’t know you, but just based on looks, I would think your dance card would always be full. this guy sounds like one huge ahole that you should have dropped long ago, and moved on to something better.
remember, it was him not you!

]]> By: NakedBudd http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2010/02/03/open-letter-to-the-american/#comment-5098 NakedBudd Thu, 04 Feb 2010 23:04:54 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=2261#comment-5098 Hey Brenton, I've known you before "the American" during "the American" and now since "the American" ... and I still love you, man. (That's "mate" to you blokes down under.) You are one awesome guy and even though I am waay far from perfect either, I do hope we meet up some day. Take care, live bare... NakedBudd6@yahoo.com Orlando, FL Hey Brenton,

I’ve known you before “the American” during “the American” and now since “the American” … and I still love you, man. (That’s “mate” to you blokes down under.)

You are one awesome guy and even though I am waay far from perfect either, I do hope we meet up some day.

Take care, live bare…

NakedBudd6@yahoo.com
Orlando, FL

]]> By: A. Lewis http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2010/02/03/open-letter-to-the-american/#comment-5097 A. Lewis Thu, 04 Feb 2010 17:42:58 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=2261#comment-5097 Is it because he was a US Citizen/American that you don't like him? Or because he packed your bags? You do like me.....right? Is it because he was a US Citizen/American that you don’t like him? Or because he packed your bags?
You do like me…..right?

]]> By: Dexter Mejia http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2010/02/03/open-letter-to-the-american/#comment-5093 Dexter Mejia Thu, 04 Feb 2010 14:08:52 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=2261#comment-5093 I looooooovveee drama! I looooooovveee drama!

]]> By: Damien Oz http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2010/02/03/open-letter-to-the-american/#comment-5092 Damien Oz Thu, 04 Feb 2010 12:24:08 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=2261#comment-5092 My friend............. I applaud and celebrate your strength of realisation and your stand at appropriately assigning the responsibility of someone elses actions that had profoundly negative effects on you. I wish you all the happiness that a truly talented and kind man like you deserves. May HaShem bless you and keep you in health, hope and happiness. Shalom Your Friend Damien My friend………….

I applaud and celebrate your strength of realisation and your stand at appropriately assigning the responsibility of someone elses actions that had profoundly negative effects on you.

I wish you all the happiness that a truly talented and kind man like you deserves.

May HaShem bless you and keep you in health, hope and happiness.

Shalom

Your Friend

Damien

]]> By: Matt http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2010/02/03/open-letter-to-the-american/#comment-5088 Matt Thu, 04 Feb 2010 09:21:23 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=2261#comment-5088 Brilliant!! Congratulations Brenton on shedding yourself of those feelings and emotions. Sure it will, and has taken time, but you are well on the way to a much deserved and fulfilling relationship and life. Your words have given all of us a mighty burst of self worth and em-powerment. Onwards and upwards!! :) Brilliant!! Congratulations Brenton on shedding yourself of those feelings and emotions. Sure it will, and has taken time, but you are well on the way to a much deserved and fulfilling relationship and life. Your words have given all of us a mighty burst of self worth and em-powerment. Onwards and upwards!! :)

]]> By: clarus65 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2010/02/03/open-letter-to-the-american/#comment-5086 clarus65 Thu, 04 Feb 2010 02:12:44 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=2261#comment-5086 Wow Brenton. I actually started reading your blog back when you were seeing the American and contemplating moving to the States to be with him. It's a little unnerving to read that he was such a douche and put you through so much pain that it's still palpable today. My prayers are certainly with you that you will be able to unload that baggage and move toward the healthy, happy life you should have with someone who you can love deeply and loves you in the same way in return. All the best to you. Wow Brenton. I actually started reading your blog back when you were seeing the American and contemplating moving to the States to be with him. It’s a little unnerving to read that he was such a douche and put you through so much pain that it’s still palpable today. My prayers are certainly with you that you will be able to unload that baggage and move toward the healthy, happy life you should have with someone who you can love deeply and loves you in the same way in return. All the best to you.

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