One commenter on yesterdays post about escorting and our predisposition to judge asked if I could date someone that had been an escort and the answer is yes. Very few people enter a relationship with no sexual history, and an escort just has more of a history than I do (lucky bastard) and probably a lot more tricks up his sleeve that would make life interesting in the bedroom (or kitchen, backyard or wherever).
They also asked if I would date someone that was still escorting and that answer is a definitive no. Not out of any judgement or disapproval but purely because I’m a totally monogamous kind of guy and even though it’s sex without emotion it’s still sex outside the relationship which I won’t accept.
I am going to be doing an interview with one of my friends who escorted several years ago to answer many questions on the issue. So if you have any questions you want answered, post them in the comments!
One question that does keep occurring to me since the invention of the little blue boner pill is what exactly did escorts do to get/keep an erection before Viagra?
Surely the same issues exist for porn actors. Their sex is out in the public arena. One question I’d like to know an answer to is has your interviewee ever formed an ongoing (non sexual) friendship with a client? .
What got him into the business? Surely he didn’t just answer an advertisement.
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How did he get comfortable with the idea of having sex with those physically unnattractive to him? (Overweight, underweight, older, etc.)
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Was it ever really inconvenient to respond to a call?
How often to they come across a client who has a visible STI? eg a herpes lesion, and how do they react in such situations
I had a relationship with an escort. I met him in a club didn’t know he was an escort. Just a cute canadian student. But after a few weeks and a couple of proper dates – he mentioned that he was both HIV and an escort.
Now like Brenton I had didn’t really have a problem with his job. I actually didn’t have a huge problem with his status, as I know how and we both did protect me from any danger. The real issue was seeing clients. And I said to him that we should end it because I didn’t think I could handle him seeing other guys. More so for work – did our evening out have to stop because he had to work all of a sudden?? Anyway he said he would give it up because he wanted me, and because of that he had to move in very quickly (we had been seeing each other 3-4 months) with me as he had little funds of his own. Anyway his lack of financial security and loss of independence wasn’t easy for either of us …. and we split up not so long after. He had to go back to escorting…. I know lots of stay at home women cope with this, but he wasn’t used to asking someone else for hand-outs, or indeed feeling guilty about spending my money on treats. I guess the answer moral is be careful what you wish for. Perhaps if I had coped with my feelings about his job better, that would have been the way to go…