Comments on: I don’t know how to fix it.

By: Colton

Colton — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 07:42:43 +0000

awww sorry you were having a bad week… just found your blog from dave evans….. anyways hope everything is looking up now :)

By: Peter

Peter — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 08:18:34 +0000

Brenton, it is impossible for you to find and keep a guy not because you don’t love yourself enough, but because of the exact opposite. You seem completely obsessed with yourself. It’s all “me, me, me”. How can you ever have a successful relationship with someone ELSE when it’s all about yourSELF? Short answer: you can’t.

By: anthony

anthony — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 14:00:18 +0000

Hi B
first time poster here as well.
Thanks for your site and for your honesty and courage in expressing
what you did
im in the same place as you so can relate
i admire your openness and think your great!

By: mike

mike — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 01:04:58 +0000

Hey B
Sorry been away for a few days so this is a little late in coming and shannon pretty much said every thing that needs to be said but also you can’t keep doing this to yourself you tied yourself up in knots and it’s not a good thing you have to keep in mind your energy that your putting out there good energy out good energy back sounds corny but I’m in the same place as you and thats what I been told by more then one person so keep the the good energy following
LOVE YA MORE THEN MY LUGGAGE :)

By: Marc

Marc — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 05:01:06 +0000

another “first time posting”: me - cheers, from Brazil; thanks for your blog; we are all looking for love, even lots of people who are already dating or married or any other “arrangement”; sometimes we do, sometimes we don`t. I`m sure you will find it and you`ll get the best love of all your dreams. As for the family, do you really need to have a better relationship with them? Do you really need to get better understanding from them? If you do, say it plainly, even if the reaction may be totally screwed… say it by saying “I need this and that from you. Can you give it to me?”. The worst thing is to have all those clouds on the way and not being able to know exactly what is going on. If they can understand, they will. If they can`t, they won`t and you will have to work it out by yourself anyway. Be brave. thanks again (for sharing and for the delicious posts you keep giving us all around the globe)

By: Shanon

Shanon — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 03:58:49 +0000

Hi Brenton,

I think what your feeling is perfectly normal. I to have witnessed my friends fall into relationships like getting wet on a rainy day. However, it seems as though I am covered by a giant umbrella.
It will happen when it’s supposed to. I have been given so much advice over the years. The best thing I could tell you is to let it happen, don’t make it happen. I honestly believe the best is yet to come. You will find the man of your dreams.
The situation with your family is sort of tough. I have a similar situation with mine. They suspect, but don’t really know a lot about my life. Some are ok with the way I live my life, and others just never talk about it. I know they love me, they may not be able to say it, but they do. Your mom and brother love you. Some people just have a hard time dealing with the unknown to them. There will come a day when what they are feeling will be thing of the past. The only thing you can do is love them, and never let them forget how much you do.
I know everything will work out for you. It will happen when it’s the right time. You have helped so many people around the world by having the website. I thank you, you are truly a great person.

By: Brad

Brad — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 21:39:16 +0000

Brenton,
Also a first time poster to your wonderful blog. The others have written good advice regarding your search for a boyfriend. I am going to heed some of that advice for myself.

As for your family, I understand your concern. I recently moved to be closer to my Mom and Brother. And for what ever reason my brother can’t even stay in the same room with me when visiting his house. I have been out for 30 years. I just spent the last couple of days with my mother and mentioned that I would like to find someone so I would not feel so alone in this new place. She did not even acknowledge my comment, she quickly asked which plants I was going to dig up for my new property. I have learned to let her inability to not talk about my lifestyle not to bother me, its the way she was raised, and the belief that out of 5 children she would have more than 1 grandchild. 3 of us are gay. Before I get to rambling, I guess the point is, don’t try to change the way she views your life. She still loves you no matter what, I know from experience. Good luck, and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

By: Chris

Chris — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 19:09:42 +0000

Cheers from LA. I too have followed your blog for quite some time, and this is my first post. I too feel your relationship ache. I’ve had such horrible bad luck with dating and sex the last two years that its actually a joke amongst my good friends. They thought I made my stories up, but totally got my frustration when they saw it for themselves. Fortunately I’ve learned to laugh at it and just have fun. It is what it is. I’ve accepted the fact that I might just be single forever and that I’m just one of those that doesn’t benefit from being with someone special. At the same time, I continue to work on myself, love myself, and find out what makes me happy. That’s a lifetime journey and not something that you can just check off your list. I hate telling people what they want to hear or dishing out those cheesy saying like “stop looking and it will happen”, but I do think that things happen or don’t happen for a reason. Hopefully one day we’ll know why. You never who or what is around the corner every single day. I continue to be surprised.
Chris

By: Jeffrey

Jeffrey — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 18:55:01 +0000

Hang in there dude, there’s a lot of us out here in internet land who really enjoy your blog and wish you all the happiness you deserve.

By: Aiden

Aiden — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 17:44:30 +0000

Thinking of you