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Duncan James, of British Boyband “Blue” has officially announced that he’s bisexual. He’s been in intimate relationships with both men and women, fathering a daughter with one of his exes who was also one of the first to find out about his bisexuality.

Duncan has said that he is equally attracted to both men and women and doesn’t rule out settling down with either gender. Blue hit it big in London while I was living there and Duncan here was always my lust object. He just had that cheeky playful sexiness that I find very very attractive. So it’s nice to know that some of my fantasies aren’t entirely out of the question. EXTREMELY unlikely that I’ll ever get to live them out but hey it’s a baby step closer.

The story raises an interesting point about acceptance of bisexuals by the gay community. I’ve read interviews with several bisexual people over the years who all say they don’t really feel accepted by either the straight community or the gay community. Why do we have such an overwhelming desire to label people and define them so finitely that it confounds us when someone says they genuinely feel attracted to both sexes? Do we see bisexuals as being greedy, heaping their plates at the sexual buffet when the rest of us have to decide? Straight men are almost obscenely turned on by the idea of their wife or girlfriend getting it on with another woman. How devastated they’d be if she decided she preferred the other woman to him rather than him swaggering after his show to sort both of them out. Yet most gay men, conversely, would be absolutely mortified at the suggestion of a three-way with a woman. Maybe bisexuality confronts our definition of our own sexuality.

I’ve slept with a handful of women before discovering my love of men and while I would struggle to identify myself truthfully as bisexual, I don’t ever rule out the fact that maybe some day a woman could rock my world. Anne Heche was condemned by the gay community as a loony for going back to men (and losing her marbles in the desert, granted) but Cynthia Nixon (Miranda from Sex and the City) was applauded for finally acknowledging her inner lesbian and settling down with a woman.

So, in part two of “What’s my demographic” I want to know, simply, how you define your sexuality?

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