If people wonder why us single boys (who don’t want to be single) give up hope of finding a partner then you just have to look at my dating tragedies to find the answer.
On friday I mustered up the courage to give my number to a guy I’ve seen at the gym for quite some time now. He didn’t call over the weekend and I don’t go to the gym on a Monday. So Tuesday morning comes along and I saw him. He apologised for not calling but he’d been really busy over the weekend. I said “That’s ok, was it a good weekend?” He replied with “I’ve got kids and they managed to break a family heirloom.” Back that shit up sunshine. Kids? I know a lot of gay men have kids, but to casually throw that out there? Not a problem, I can handle kids. Not sure if I want to be a step-homo but we can cross that bridge if it comes along.
Anyway, cut to today. He’s being a bit evasive in the gym so I asked a girl that we both chat to what she knows about him. “He’s got a boyfriend. Sorry.”
Now, excuse my ignorance or naive romanticism, but wouldn’t it have been more prudent to tell me about his boyfriend before the kids info came up? In my little deluded world of happines and labradors I envisage my OWN boyfriend, not borrowing someone elses.
Oooooooookayyyyyyyyyyy – that would be a bit creepy..
Oh Brenton! Why does it happen to the good guys. I reckon there are thousands of men out there can feel your pain. Don’t give up!
we all get embarrassed in the heat of the moment…just keep giving your number to the fellas – its a lesson I wish I’d learnt when I was younger!
“Kids” could mean he has kids, or has a couple of cocker spaniels….
If he already has a boyfriend, though, you’d think he would have mentioned it if you’ve chatted regularly! Why not ask him?
Perhaps he’s just a typical male (if there is such a thing) – cute guy gives him a phone number (big ego boost there!) so his brain goes gaga and he doesn’t say what he should, then he doesn’t know how to tell you what he should have in the first place!
Ob booo. I wish I had some word of wisdome to shed on this but other then commiserating with your situation I have none. Its world over… There isn’t enough space on here for me to share similar scenarios.
But in words of encouragement I say fuck him! I mean figuratively – not literally. Move on. Theres always another dumbass to muddle thru.
xo
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he probably likes the attention and is trying to lead you on. im so tired of mindgames people play. Why cant they be more upfront. But i do admire your guts to go talk to this guy. I chiken out most of the time. :)
Chapeau!! Don’t hold back and move on. Forget him. Please don’t give up, your guy is waiting somewhere!
Stop move on Stop seeking our approval of yourself you have enough attributes to live your own life You will find someone
I wouldn’t bother with him, if he has a boyfriend WHY did he accept your phone number, he should have said ‘oh thanks but I’m seeing someone’,run for the hills on that one.
Maybe he just thought you wanted to get together to chat or have drinks, maybe you should have been more forthcoming with what you wanted, a date. Most of the people here say “Move on”. Life can suck most of the time but eventually Mr Right or Mr Right Now will come along. Life is a party so blow up some balloons and streamers and enjoy. Plenty of jerks out there but also plenty of great people to meet. Maybe a good way to meet people is to have an Aussielicious Blog party and get to meet us all. hehe
I am a single dad of two kids (actual human beings, not matching Jack Russells), and can tell you it would be a lot easier to get a date if I only had a boyfriend instead of children. Having kids is about the equivalent of having a communicable disease for gay guys.
Brenton, your gym guy’s just not available. Move on. Nothing lost.
Brenton Brenton Brenton. There are some real losers there. Perhaps a bit of honesty when you gave him your number would have assisted and avoided some confusion in the first place. Oh well, back to the grinding wheel!
men are pigs…
but it took me a long time to realize i was putting out the wrong vibe and letting married/boyfriended guys hit on me…
what you put out is what you get….look for better venues to meet guys…
easier said than done, but try it!
He’s an asshole. You’re better off without. A real gentleman would have gently said he had a boyfriend the minute you handed him your number.
And if I found out a guy had kids, AND was single, it would only make him more attractive in my eyes. FWIW.