I had a comment on the blog last night from someone that made me realise we all look at things very differently with our own perceptions colouring the way we see the same world in different ways.
The commenter went to great lengths to tell me that even though he’s been reading the blog for some time that he thinks I don’t share much of myself. He knows that I like social nudity and that I do Poll dancing (his spelling mistake not mine) and that was about it. I find it interesting that he can think I don’t share much when many others have told me that I am much more open and revealing than they could ever be. I’ve shared about my aspirations in life, my loneliness about being single, my counselling, dramas with work and money over the last few years and lots of things. I don’t share much about my family because they haven’t made the choice to blog, I have and it’s not fair of me to detail their lives without their consent.
Do you think I share too much or share not enough? I’m curious. It probably won’t influence what I post but I’m intrigued.
i think you share just enough…there is enough there to paint a picture of you…it’s your blog and you share what you choose to. you do a great job that’s why people keep reading….
You have to remember that it is your blog. You will post / share what you feel comfortable posting / sharing.
After all, it isn’t up to the readers to dictate what you post. It is their choice to visit or not.
I’ve put posts of my living with Depression on my blog and there are those who think I crossed the line. And yet, I found it quite cathartic.
I recommend you put this one into the “Everyone is entitled to their own opinion” box and let it lie.
Remember - OVER analysing will make you crazy - trust me … I know. :)
PS I’ll always visit. I’m a true fan :)
I think he’s probably kinda right and kinda wrong. You’re not a “noodle blogger” (doodle yes, noodle no) who recounts everything that’s happening to them, with them, around them. And it is only over a fair degree of time that you’ve shared stuff about yourself, so maybe if he’s only really been around since the switch from Blogger to here, then he might not have caught all the clues.
But by the same token, having been a regular reader for about three years now, I wouldn’t say that I “knew” you as well as some of the other people that I’ve been reading for the same length of time. And you’re not one for the “memes”, so we’re not getting little self contained capsules of information about you, even if that’s something as lame as your favourite colour (I could probably work it out if I went digging in your blog, but it doesn’t spring straight to mind like with various other people).
But I think that a vast number of blog readers feel like they have some sort of stake or say in what happens on the blogs they frequent (or worse yet, feel like they’re owed something… I’m not saying that this is the case with this guy, just a general observation)… me, I just take what is there.
Or it could be that he just wants to hear more about your sex life… :P
As others suggest, this blog is yours and what you make it. Just because you start a blog and choose to share some of your life with us doesn’t mean you need to tell us everything about yourself.
Unlike some other blogs out there, I do find that what you do choose to share with us is genuine, painting a picture of your actual thoughts and issues, and not something you make up to be controversial or something you’re not.
Anyway, good blog, keep doing what you’re doing and I’ll keep reading.
Maybe he was just asking for you to be more interesting.
I think you share plenty. As a fellow blogger, I tend to post items about my life that I feel will be interesting to others. Keep doing what your doing…
The only major thing you don’t talk about is your job (and most jobs are pretty mundane, anyway).
Whether you’re sharing a little or a lot (as you indicated, it’s all relative), it seems to be the right mix to keep me coming back almost daily for three years running. I’d definitely miss you if you ended your blog.
just right imo Brenton
I have to say you are doing enough to keep me coming back!
Like working in retail blogging is the same, you are always going to have unhappy customers even if its something 99% are actually happy with.
keep it up.
Brenton, this is your space, and the choices of what and when you post material is 100% yours. From my point-of-view I think I know a lot more about you than I do about some of my “physical friends” (as distinct from “virtual friends” like you).
The Blog is your vehicle, use it as you see fit. Don’t try to make it more entertaining in order to get “higher hit rates”. In any case you can’t please everybody. And a Blog is by its nature one-sided. Your readers take no risk in visiting, even if they leave a reply. If you want to keep some things private I 100% respect that. I have no right to know more.
It’s like the nudity thing. You choose to publish images of yourself naked up to a point, and no further. That is entirely right. It is absolutely *not* inconsistent with your attendance at Sydney’s free beaches, or your Naked Dinner Parties.
I like the range and depth of your postings. From the frivolous to the deeply moving.
Keep it the same by all means. But if you choose to change, do so from your own motives.
Cheers, Polomint
He just wants to see your dick Brenton, and he ain’t gonna get that unless he knows how to get to La Perouse. Ha!! Mwah xx baby, and don’t let these idiots faze you.
How much we share of ourselves with the rest of the world is completely up to us as individuals. That the world expects us to detail intensely personal aspects of our lives to anyone who wants to know is increasingly disturbing. There is a time to share, and a time to keep things to yourself. Perhaps it’s time to shut down reality overload and start keeping secrets again. Life might just get a bit more surprising and interesting.
Hey, you share just what you feel comfortable with. I don’t read regularly, but thats just because of my lifestyle and I’m not always around. Keep doing what you do, cos we are all intrigued, well I am lol :-)
I think you share quite a lot. You do talk about money, your job, your relationship hopes and fears, what you did the night before or last weekend, your feelings about many topics. I can’t believe someone feels you don’t share enough? weird.
I don’t think you’re any more, or less, unusual than most of us on the internet. We share this or that, and we tend to operate inside of the same statements, activities, blog reads, etc etc etc. but his comments do have some merit….I probably know more than others since we have a non-regular email relationship besides…but if all I did was read your blog, I honestly have to say I wouldn’t know much about you indepth. It’s not good, nor bad, nor anything else…just the way it is. I enjoy your site for what it is…not for what it is not.
I agree with polomint it’s your blog, and i think you share plenty and again has the others say it keeps me coming back it’s one guy blow it off and keep up the good work
You should only share what you want to share, it isn’t up to anyone but you to determine what you should be private about or not.
I wonder if the one who made the comment puts his own pictures on the internet.
You are the artist, the blog is your canvas. Whatever you put on it is enough. I like your style and I think you come thru quite nicely. BTW, you have a fantastic ass (and get to show it on a nude beach). I an envious….Leo/North Carolina
Brenton, your blog was an inpiration to me - for me to actually create my own. Unfortunately due to my schedule I haven’t been able to read your blog on a regular basis, nor maintain my blog to the quality of posts I’d like it to have.
It was your feeling of openness, posts that were on topics that meant something to you, and your expression of that, that inspired me.
Sure I may not ‘know’ you, but as everyone else as mentioned, this is your blog and your choice to what you put here. It is the depth that some of your posts go to that have kept me coming back.
Keep up the good work.
Erik
Brenton, Luv you babe, last I read you were excelling in “silks” not “Poll” lol. Any how, you are right you share enough. Let this guy fall off you like water on a ducks back. One of the many reasons I faithfuly keep coming back is that when you do blog about your personal thoughts and feelings, you do it in such a fashion that it feels like you are actually speaking to me. Just sounds like some one has challenged your confidence and they got under your skin a tiny bit. Stand tall, chin up, Chest out and tummy in and remember you are truly fabulous….. Lots of Huggs,,,, robert,,
Umm, since when is there a rule to what you post on your blog. You share what you want and we’re just here for the ride!
Keep up the great work! Do it for yourself! :D
Brenton,
I thoroughly believe that you could offer free and easy BJ’s and someone would complain. That’s why the gods of computing invented the “delete” key……..
First of all, allow me to say that is one hot pic you chose to attach to this post.
Second, I would like to echo the sentiments of many others who have commented here and say that this is your blog and you alone have the power to choose what is shared. Just as we have the choice of whether or not we choose to read your blog.
I for one love this blog and look forward to reading it every day. I thank you for your openness and the things you share here.
I have been reading for quite a while now and personally I feel like I know you. The reason I feel this way is because you share so many intimate things from your life. You share the fears and failures as well as the victories and triumphs from your life.
As I said, I enjoy your blog very much and hope that you will continue to allow us to peak into your life through this blog. I appreciate what you do and look forward to many more years of reading this blog.
I think your blog is dribble!
Comments like your blog is dribble really anoy me (and insulting and uncalled for) - as so many have said, we have a choice in what we read. You have tremendous support, and sure some posts are more interesting or salacious than others, but it is also a reflection on life for all of us as we have good and bad days, feel enthused and can feel flat. Your blog is what you want, and as far as the nudity goes, you tease us in the nicest way - we are all voyeuristic and all want more - and it did not matter if you showed more or not - you know you would be criticised for that as well. I, also enjoy your blog every single day - like catching up with a good mate. Thanks for sharing with us.
you definitely share enough in my opinion.
sounds to me like this guy just wanted to you post some nude pics of urself….
No, its not about seeing Brenton nude. He leaves these posts that start interesting but does not give you substance why he is talking about the subject. I did not ask about his private life. I ask he should put more into what he and his blog is about. That is all. I said his passion. It was a one person comment to Brenton. It was not about how much and what he should share. Brenton, sorry for the confusion and stress.
Well i see it as mind over matter. You shouldn’t mind and he doesn’t matter. Anyway it got the result you were looking for
Lets call this what it is - Brenton screaming for attention, once again. I come here to see the fewer and fewer nude guys, and the links in the sidebar. Seeing you twhirl around on a pole or crying over how unattractive you think you are make me cringe. I have to hand it to you though, you certainly have an incredible readership. And I also acknowledge that, yes, if I don’t like it I should not bother reading it - let alone commenting!
I really don’t read much of your blog but, as far as I’m concerned, the things you write in your blog is no ones business but yours. I actually admire your openness and audacity and talking about your personal ups and downs is not just “cathartic” (to quote one of your readers) but “ballsy” as well.Keep it up and here’s wishing you would find someone who deserves you. Don’t rush; things happen when they’re suppose to happen. I was 39 years old when I found my life partner more than 12 years ago. We’re still very much in love with each other. You seem like a nice guy and I’m sure there’s someone out there for you.
Tata for now…
i don’t think you share much of yourself. i know details about your life, but not much about the real you. but it’s your blog so you can share as much as you want! i’ll still keep stopping by.
Long time reader here (very occasional comment leaver). I think you’re very open about who you are. I get the feeling that while we have never met, it would be very easy for me to strike up a conversation with you. Sure I don’t know what you were up to last Thursday (if there is a post about last Thursday - sorry - I’m behind in reading!) but I feel like I know what makes you tick.
As I live in Sydney and being what Gay Sydney is - assuming we were introduced a dinner party one night, I would hate to be able to recount your life story without you knowing a thing about me - it would quickly turn out that we had nothing to say (or be a very one-sided chat).
I say your reader is one of a bunch that were there in the earlier days of this blog when male form and nudity were the focus. Things change and so has your blog. Your choice just as it is your readers choice to come back.