Comments on: The curse of beauty? http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2009/01/02/the-curse-of-beauty/ Thu, 18 Mar 2010 16:05:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Tyson http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2009/01/02/the-curse-of-beauty/#comment-2746 Tyson Thu, 08 Jan 2009 14:10:52 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=954#comment-2746 You don't need to be told what you can and can't say on your own blog . Personally, Chris's life sounds sad if he has to go to the place where you probably vent most if not all of your feelings just to harshly criticise . You don’t need to be told what you can and can’t say on your own blog
. Personally, Chris’s life sounds sad if he has to go to the place where you probably vent most if not all of your feelings just to harshly criticise
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]]> By: Mike http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2009/01/02/the-curse-of-beauty/#comment-2706 Mike Sat, 03 Jan 2009 15:52:34 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=954#comment-2706 As a long time reader and only occasional commenter, I have to say Chris and Franco are correct: a) Get out of the ghetto and it's superficiality b) Invest in more time with the therapist As a long time reader and only occasional commenter, I have to say Chris and Franco are correct:

a) Get out of the ghetto and it’s superficiality
b) Invest in more time with the therapist

]]> By: Brian http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2009/01/02/the-curse-of-beauty/#comment-2704 Brian Sat, 03 Jan 2009 11:39:14 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=954#comment-2704 Read the book! Read the book!

]]> By: Chris http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2009/01/02/the-curse-of-beauty/#comment-2701 Chris Sat, 03 Jan 2009 06:11:18 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=954#comment-2701 "...I didn’t really enjoy seeing him ending up pashing some hideous looking guy." WHO the heck do you think YOU are calling someone hideous?? You need to be bitch slapped across the room! Did you ever stop to think that some of these beautiful guys just might think you're hideous? You may be nice looking, but you're far from A list stunning. Did you ever stop to think that guy who you have a crush on is attracted to guys who are smart and have their act together? Far from how you portray yourself. For a lot of people it's not ALL about physical attraction. For those for which it is lead sad, shallow lives. Pull yourself OUT OF THE GHETTO and start playing your real strengths and challenge yourself to go out on dates with guys who also have some real depth. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I agree with the poster above. Please call your therapist. You are far from being out of the woods. “…I didn’t really enjoy seeing him ending up pashing some hideous looking guy.”

WHO the heck do you think YOU are calling someone hideous?? You need to be bitch slapped across the room!

Did you ever stop to think that some of these beautiful guys just might think you’re hideous? You may be nice looking, but you’re far from A list stunning.

Did you ever stop to think that guy who you have a crush on is attracted to guys who are smart and have their act together? Far from how you portray yourself.

For a lot of people it’s not ALL about physical attraction. For those for which it is lead sad, shallow lives.

Pull yourself OUT OF THE GHETTO and start playing your real strengths and challenge yourself to go out on dates with guys who also have some real depth.

I don’t mean to sound harsh, but I agree with the poster above. Please call your therapist. You are far from being out of the woods.

]]> By: Franco http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2009/01/02/the-curse-of-beauty/#comment-2700 Franco Sat, 03 Jan 2009 00:08:34 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=954#comment-2700 Brenton- I say this with love, invest in more sessions with your therapist! You're doing the same old things and expecting different results. It's just not going to happen for you until you realize what's causing you to do this. Although it hasn't happened to me yet (LOL) your youthfulness and body will fade and you will be stuck with nothing. NOTHING. I realized this when I was 36. At 38 I met my partner, the first guy I have ever had a deep meaningful relationship with. It was the same for him. You need to fix you first, then you will have the sense of self and confidence that most worthy guys find attractive. I'm 45 now, look the best I ever have, and am loving life. So again, continue to get help and really question why you are doing the things you are. Franco Brenton-

I say this with love, invest in more sessions with your therapist!

You’re doing the same old things and expecting different results. It’s just not going to happen for you until you realize what’s causing you to do this.

Although it hasn’t happened to me yet (LOL) your youthfulness and body will fade and you will be stuck with nothing. NOTHING.

I realized this when I was 36. At 38 I met my partner, the first guy I have ever had a deep meaningful relationship with. It was the same for him. You need to fix you first, then you will have the sense of self and confidence that most worthy guys find attractive. I’m 45 now, look the best I ever have, and am loving life.

So again, continue to get help and really question why you are doing the things you are.

Franco

]]> By: mascdudewriter http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2009/01/02/the-curse-of-beauty/#comment-2699 mascdudewriter Fri, 02 Jan 2009 23:29:37 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=954#comment-2699 I agree with Robert that confidence is sexy. It's a serious turn off to me when even a guy I find hot ends up being insecure about the way he looks, and thinks he's not hot enough. I agree with Robert that confidence is sexy. It’s a serious turn off to me when even a guy I find hot ends up being insecure about the way he looks, and thinks he’s not hot enough.

]]> By: robert dunn http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2009/01/02/the-curse-of-beauty/#comment-2698 robert dunn Fri, 02 Jan 2009 19:21:29 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=954#comment-2698 Brenton, Merry Christmas, and a Happy new year. Maybe this will help put some of your thoughts into perspective. Recently I was watching Oprah and her resident Doctor was explaining this that and other stuff when he made a very obvious but logical statement that I had not realized myself. " Genetitcaly we are all Beautiful, realize that we (each and every one of us) are the end result of thousands of years of selection through attraction." On a more personal note I have realized that sometimes, healthy or not I only feel as handsome or sexy as others see me. Also I have noticed I get a lot more compliments when I tell myself who gives a bleeep I feel down right Sexy. Yes, ask him for a date, a moment, build on it. If he says no, at least you will not be trapped in that time consuming thought any longer. Anyhow much love, Kisses and Hugs. Brenton, Merry Christmas, and a Happy new year. Maybe this will help put some of your thoughts into perspective. Recently I was watching Oprah and her resident Doctor was explaining this that and other stuff when he made a very obvious but logical statement that I had not realized myself. ” Genetitcaly we are all Beautiful, realize that we (each and every one of us) are the end result of thousands of years of selection through attraction.” On a more personal note I have realized that sometimes, healthy or not I only feel as handsome or sexy as others see me. Also I have noticed I get a lot more compliments when I tell myself who gives a bleeep I feel down right Sexy.
Yes, ask him for a date, a moment, build on it. If he says no, at least you will not be trapped in that time consuming thought any longer. Anyhow much love, Kisses and Hugs.

]]> By: duglyduckling http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2009/01/02/the-curse-of-beauty/#comment-2697 duglyduckling Fri, 02 Jan 2009 18:15:47 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=954#comment-2697 Brenton, so why didn't you go up and ask him out then? You guys are in the same league afterall! Go for it!! Brenton, so why didn’t you go up and ask him out then? You guys are in the same league afterall! Go for it!!

]]> By: Brian http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2009/01/02/the-curse-of-beauty/#comment-2696 Brian Fri, 02 Jan 2009 17:46:07 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=954#comment-2696 There is a great book that explains a lot of the issues that gay men experience...like low self esteem...and not being able to maintain a relationship...it's called 'The Velvet Rage' by Alan Down. Well worth the read and it's amazing to see oneself in those pages. There is a great book that explains a lot of the issues that gay men experience…like low self esteem…and not being able to maintain a relationship…it’s called ‘The Velvet Rage’ by Alan Down.
Well worth the read and it’s amazing to see oneself in those pages.

]]> By: Peter http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2009/01/02/the-curse-of-beauty/#comment-2695 Peter Fri, 02 Jan 2009 15:22:08 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/?p=954#comment-2695 Beauty is only skin-deep, the real beauty of a person is what's going on his mind, the rest if just gift paper around the whole package... Go for it and unwrap it! Beauty is only skin-deep, the real beauty of a person is what’s going on his mind, the rest if just gift paper around the whole package… Go for it and unwrap it!

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