When two people are on the same page they get to read the adventures and drama of life along-side each other and find out how things will play out together. Sadly, I’m waiting to start the big romance novel of life but everyone I meet is finished the book and having a rest from the library for a bit.
Today’s non-date went as well as anything could have been anticipated except that there won’t be any happily ever after in this tale of two boys. Conversation flowed very easily, witty banter, general chit chat, all sorts of bits and pieces. We had a couple of beers at the pub, then went and played a bit of lawn bowls over a few more beers in the sunshine before a quick bite to eat. Not once did the conversation falter.
Sadly, even though to me, it felt really natural and comfortable and like there was a mutual attraction, nothing is to come of it because of his recent break up. So we have two options before us. We can get to know each other as friends or we could possibly become fuck buddies. I’m ruling out the fuck buddies thing but if we become friends and he finds himself ready to date, there is the risk that we’ll be too close as friends by then to think of dating, but that’s the option I’m taking. He’s a really nice, sweet, funny, cute, intriguing guy and I’m not going to throw away someone like that as a friend for a roll in the hay once in a while.
Timing really is everything.
That’s an excellent way to think.
Well done mister.
B…love is as perennial as the grass…it is…just be open to it, and it will follow.
Even with a good friend you can be happy, who knows whom you meet through his side of the ‘family’
Oh my god, no, never throw away a handsome AND nice roll in the hay. You never know when you may need them.
You might be too close as friends to consider dating? It seems to me that you ought to be friends with everyone you date, and whomever becomes your mate ought to be your very best friend. Go for it.
You know sometimes its good not too think too much into something and just go with the flow.
There’s a fascinating book I’m reading right now called ‘Velvet Rage’ by Alan Down. It’s about growing up gay in a straight world and that damages our chances of having a healthy and lasting relationship. It’s an eye opener even when you think you aren’t carrying shame.
might be an interesting read for everyone looking for a lasting relationship.
perhaps there are more than just the two options.
” We can get to know each other as friends or we could possibly become fuck buddies.”
so why limit yourself?
you could become both or more!
free yourself to the options
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