But I have to ask you, Brenton, if you do indeed hang out mostly with couples in loving relationships, then who are all these people telling you – as you noted in the earlier post – that you have to slut around and that men aren’t truly monogamous?

This is my first time replying to your blog, but I’ve been a visitor to your blog for quite some time. One thing that I see consistent is your desire to be in a loving relationship. I think this is the desire of most gay men, no matter what continent they are on. I find you extremely attractive, and I’m sure there are more men out there who feel the same way. Don’t count yourself short, the right guy will come along when you least expect it. I’m always told not to look for the “one”, in some respects, I agree with this, in others not. If you don’t, how are you suppose to know if that person you just passed was not him.

If you were here in the state, Brenton, I’d give you a look, and then some. Talk to you soon. Jeff.

So, having way too much to drink for my own good, and feeling the need to tell the world, not to mention the hot baseball player, that I had sworn off all men, I walked up to him, poked him in the chest and said “I know how self-absorbed you hot boys that go to Heaven are – and no longer have a use for you!”

I later found out that he had never been to London, bought his shirt at a local thrift store, and despite being the hottest guy in town was sweet and shy. I found out because he turned out to be a close friend of a friend of mine and we ended up at the same party later that week.

The point of my story is this: People will tell you that it is impossible to find love in a gay bar, when you are drunk and angry. In fact, people will tell you all kind of things. The truth is that all true to the people who tell it, but not necessarily true for you. I found love at the most unlikely place at the most unlikely time…nearly 25 years ago and I still love waking up next to him in the morning.

My advice, which is true for me, but not necessarily true for you, is to get comfortable with yourself and people will be comfortable around you. Also, be bold and assume you have nothing to lose by approaching everyone you think looks interesting. You never know, they might think you are interesting too. And, by the way, you are very interesting!

Stop looking, you will find each other.

I agree with what one poster said. You can’t look for a partner. One will appear.