In the quest to find ourselves a new house mate, some friends brought around a mate of theirs who is looking for somewhere to live. He has had to turn the room down because his furniture won’t fit in the room. My house mate commented as soon as he’d left that he’d make a better date for me than flat mate. He was pretty nice, I have to say and cute too.
Her comments got me thinking, a mate from school just got married to a girl he started sharing a place with as housemates at uni but more developed and then they were in love. Would you let something more develop if you were sharing a house with someone or would you keep it platonic because of the proximity?
Keep it platonic with flatties.
Never works - always crashes and burns horribly.
Your mate was lucky.
Never say never, but the odds are against you.
I guess I am weak. I’d let it develop into a relationship and pay the consequences.
ummmm I’ve not gotten past the pic. What’s this about flatmates?
I do know a lot of people that went from being in a wonderful relationship to being nothing more than roommates… But that’s probably not what you wanted to hear…
Take care!
Michiel
Amsterdam
Well,
Once I had sex with my flatmate… But it was nothing more than that… At that time he had a boyfriend (and they had had an argument), and I was still in love with my ex (whom I’m back with)…
As to it developing to something else… Well, it really depends on u two… Though I think it’s not such an easy situation…
Never, never. I met mine at the beach that we go to where you go. We started out being friends first. Got to know each other, then ramped it up after that (a few months later). We didn’t start to live together for about 2 years. That way I got to know what type of person he is. Also I was coming out of a rather yuk relationship before we met. Now 14 years later…can ‘t imagine what it would be like without him.
Let life happen….
Don’t try to control every situation and you’ll find life more enjoyable…
So, who knows if you might want to just play with or if you might fall in love with a flat mate….it isn’t because he’s a flat mate that it will happen, it will be because he’s a guy you want to be with…
Let life happen…(easy to say, hard to do…and after years of trying, I learned this myself..and the results are much better).
hi brent, my advice is if it feels right go for it and have some fun, shared a flat with a guy once and really fancied him. After 3 months i told him, best 2 years of my life……..