Comments on: Is mutual stalking a relationship

By: Kindsay

Kindsay — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 22:38:28 +0000

Guys it’s called “Build a bridge and get over it”!! Maybe the new boyfriend likes all the attention. There is somebody out there for all of us!!

By: Kyriel

Kyriel — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 04:16:45 +0000

If that pic was of your boyfriend, I could put up with quite a lot of crazyness, lol

By: Brian

Brian — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 03:13:44 +0000

For me, the bottom line on someone who wants to move in after two weeks of dating is this. You have something he wants, most likely something of value to him. He’s controlling, a narcissist, insecure, unable to take care of himself, and he’s just like my ex boyfriend. I fell for this nonsense, no one else will hopefully fall for the same nonsense. Most people who pressure a “move in” in a relationship are abusers, and if that happens to anyone, run, don’t walk, run away. Say “no thanks” and just run. You’ll later realize you’ve made the best move for yourself. One who’ll wait is worth waiting for in the long run. Just sharing.

Brian

By: Stu

Stu — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 02:03:36 +0000

The endorfen rush you offered him by your attension, sexual play, just maybe a touch was enough to mix with Scott’s obsessive compulsive behavior that he could not stop trying to recreate the sensation by continuing the relationship. It could only by stopped by finding someone else to duplicate the feeling.

By: Bernd

Bernd — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 01:30:13 +0000

Interesting idea with two stalkers. Or the other person has sub-zero self-esteem and uses the attention/stalking to validate himself. Whatever works and makes them both happy.

By: Cavalier

Cavalier — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 21:49:47 +0000

Seems many of us had one at some stage. Mine used to dress the same as me even keeping a suitcase in his car to changem if he did not see what i was wearing before we went out, Then he bought a new car same as mine even the same colour DUHm Thank heavens he eventually went back to Mummy.

By: Trevor

Trevor — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 21:35:32 +0000

If I had someone asking me to move in after two weeks…I’d be getting a removal truck…to go the other direction!!

By: JT

JT — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 11:35:29 +0000

I think some level of stalking is normal for folks who have a bit of the ol’ obsessive compulsive tendency. It sounds like your ex was a bit on the pathological side, so he’s a mite over the top. I often fixate on certain guys for varying lengths of time. I’m not quite stalking, but realize that I sure as fuck could slip into the definition.

By: Markymark

Markymark — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 11:27:00 +0000

I had one like that but not so psychotic as yours. He just stalked me following me in the car. Eventually he left me alone. Thank heavens and now I’ve got a great other half who is so not psychotic. There is a life.