My previous post about good versus evil got me thinking about why we like bad boys. The dark character in that video was the one that always appealed to me more.
Boys with an edge are so sexy for some reason. Tattoos used to be the domain of bad boys but now that just about every second queen has one it’s lost its effect a bit. Is that why tattoos are getting bigger? Tyler Durden, Brad Pitt’s character in Fight Club, to me represents the idea perfectly, that every one of us has a bad boy inside, it’s just a matter of how far down they are buried. Falcon porn studio has made decades of films and millions of dollars out of wholesome boys next door getting down and dirty and living our fantasies out for us when we might be scared to ourselves.
Do nice guys really finish last? I’ve met loads of really sweet guys, but if there isn’t any kind of edge to them, no matter how small, I lose interest. For me, the trick is finding a nice guy who’s got an edge that he’s willing to show me, without that edge cutting me.
Bad guys, guys with edge, when they take an interest in you it makes you feel like you’re not just average, like you have something that makes you special. They’re attractive in that they have confidence to do things that other people don’t. And everyone likes people who are confident.
Often that edge is not going to be through a tattoo or a piercing, which is frequently a sign of wanting to be cool… but not necessarily a mark of being it. The edge is more in how they interact, how they can read situations and react faster and more creatively, and how they can make their own path, not follow the crowd.
Nice guys can also make great bad guys, it’s all in the timing.
“Every second queen”????? How could you call me that?
mmm guys with an edge can, as you say, end up cutting you. Better I think to find someone kind - it will likely last longer too !
hey…not just gay guys…look at the number of girls that go for the bad guy
I don’t go for bad guys. I like edginess in a guy’s humor perhaps, but if his behavior includes the transgressive, I’m immediately turned off. Give me a boy scout with a sharp wit and I’m sold.
Lewis, you will always be the first queen.