It’s funny, writing this blog I think I’m giving a fair representation of myself. There are elements I will leave out for privacy reasons and others so I don’t bore you to death.
I had an email while I was away, that I’ve just read, from a reader “Tom” who said that I was going to have to get out of the scene before I meet anyone and that it seems like I’m quite wrapped up in the gay scene. I’m actually surprised by that statement as my friends are always trying to get me out on the scene more. I don’t feel comfortable in the gay scene all that much so rarely venture into the more popular gay bars. Sure I’m doing pole dancing at a gay bar with gay men and most of my close friends that I see regularly are gay but that is actually a big change for me from a couple of years ago when most of my close friends were straight couples.
It’s fascinating that people can get such a different impression of me from my blog than I think I’m giving and different to what I think is accurate.
Good to see you back Brenton. I often wonder what “scene” really means across a range of people. Surely if you are going to meet someone you have to go to where other gay people “are.” Whether that be night clubs or informal social groups who knows. If a group of gay friends go out…are they going to go out to a pub in Liverpool?
Hey Brenton. You haven’t given me that u r much of scene queen. Not even the pole dancing. Either that or I just don’t think too much about your life other than what you blog.
Anyway, keep dancing!
Hey Brenton,
I dont think your all that in the scene, compared with gays who are, might just be living in a gay, gay gay world, all u want to do is be gay, gay mates, gay classes, gay pics, gay nude beach, gay gay gay….
I dont care if your life is based in a gay gay gay world, your happy, you know what you want from this life, go hard my gay gay gay blogger.
i love reading your blog, your ace!!!
Dan
Brisbane
Welcome back! You are so cute in that blue towel! Love to see you without it too! ;)
Hi Brenton,
I’ve been reading your blog since earlier last year and enjoy it very much, though this is my first comment. I’m afraid I agree with Tom. Certainly, you don’t come over as a screaming queen but “gayness” does seem to play a big part in all that you do - no offence intended.
My partner and I are in our fifties and have been together for 25 years (no labrador or picket fence). I was never into the scene and find it hard to imagine that anyone could find a soulmate that way. “Ordinary life” is where you find a kindred spirit, where you can be your own genuine self - not the hot house of the scene.
Here endeth the lesson! Oh, I also agree with Sue too!
I think “in the scene” here doesn’t so much mean hanging out in bars and clubs and going to all the gay events, as much as - at least for the purposes of this blog - a seemingly strong focus on gay icons and their music, porn stars, gay clothing and accessories, underwear, underwear, and underwear. And lots of naked guys in tip-top shape.
Not there is anything wrong with that, but since that is the overwhelming tone of this blog, aside from the occasional introspective post or interview, you have to expect that readers are going to make certain assumptions about you.
It’s your blog and you should post what makes you happy. But since you don’t in fact post about doing the laundry and cleaning the dishes or that annoying co-worker, as many do, people can easily assume you are only about being fabulous 24/7.