Comments on: Smitten with an idea? http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/ Wed, 7 Jan 2009 23:04:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: David http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-416 David Thu, 20 Mar 2008 17:57:29 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-416 From what I'm reading in your post Brenton, these are not guys you've hooked up with, only men you've met in passing. For me, ideas of Labradors never enter the picture until AFTER that first or second real date. Until then, it's just fantasies of what they're like in bed. If you are creating futures for men you barely know, I don't think it's productive. If you're smitten by the unknown, file it with the twins. If you're smitten after you know them, then you can justify the picket fence fantasies. From what I’m reading in your post Brenton, these are not guys you’ve hooked up with, only men you’ve met in passing. For me, ideas of Labradors never enter the picture until AFTER that first or second real date. Until then, it’s just fantasies of what they’re like in bed. If you are creating futures for men you barely know, I don’t think it’s productive. If you’re smitten by the unknown, file it with the twins. If you’re smitten after you know them, then you can justify the picket fence fantasies.

]]> By: Dennis http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-411 Dennis Thu, 20 Mar 2008 12:14:45 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-411 If there's one thing that I've learnt over the years its that if you want something to happen then its up to you to make it happen. And you have to persist until you get an outright rejection. I think Shaney gave up too easily As humans we are naturally cautious and uncertain about our relationships with new acquaintances, often so uncertain that we prevent situations from developing that might be to our advantage If there’s one thing that I’ve learnt over the years its that if you want something to happen then its up to you to make it happen. And you have to persist until you get an outright rejection. I think Shaney gave up too easily

As humans we are naturally cautious and uncertain about our relationships with new acquaintances, often so uncertain that we prevent situations from developing that might be to our advantage

]]> By: Tom http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-409 Tom Thu, 20 Mar 2008 09:17:16 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-409 Because that's not the stereotypical gay guy's way. You gotta sleep with him before you even know his name - 'asking them out' is for straights or for people who want a long-term relationship. Because that’s not the stereotypical gay guy’s way. You gotta sleep with him before you even know his name - ‘asking them out’ is for straights or for people who want a long-term relationship.

]]> By: Sam http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-406 Sam Thu, 20 Mar 2008 00:58:38 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-406 Brenton, Why don't you just ask him out? Brenton,

Why don’t you just ask him out?

]]> By: Tom http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-403 Tom Thu, 20 Mar 2008 00:23:41 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-403 You have to get away from the scene to meet anyone decent. No offence, but you seem very into the scene. The scene is full of people whose entire lives revolve around their sexuality, to the detriment of other areas of their lives. Scene queens are generally not well-rounded, healthy people. When you move away from the scene, and stop living every second of your life as though being gay completely defines you, then you'll have a chance of meeting a decent guy and forming a meaningful relationship. :-) You have to get away from the scene to meet anyone decent. No offence, but you seem very into the scene. The scene is full of people whose entire lives revolve around their sexuality, to the detriment of other areas of their lives. Scene queens are generally not well-rounded, healthy people. When you move away from the scene, and stop living every second of your life as though being gay completely defines you, then you’ll have a chance of meeting a decent guy and forming a meaningful relationship. :-)

]]> By: Shaney http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-400 Shaney Wed, 19 Mar 2008 23:47:20 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-400 Sweet Sweet Brenton, Let me tell you a little story! Immediately after I came out 2005 (June) I met a man who I immediately fell for. He was everything I imagined in a partner. Charming, funny, witty, passionate, understanding (important). He was also very easy on the eye, great smile, physique (not so important to me) We met at my place, he stayed the night. The following week, I stayed with him. I was smitten. Wanting to spend as much time with him as possible! He worked it Sydney 5 days a week and flew home on Friday evenings for 2 days. I remember the first night I went to visit him. I had to catch the train for an hour, then walk 40 minutes to his apartment. It was cold and raining and I got saturated. His flight was delayed for an hour so I spent even longer in the bad weather. We he finally arrived home in the taxi, he threw me a glance and a smile and it all seemed worthwhile. When we got inside his apartment, he stripped off, invited me to shower with him (of course I indulged being that I was soaked through) Then without even a whisper he laid down and went immediately off to sleep. No goodnight, would you like a coffee, a water. Here I was, meant to be spending what little quailty time we had together, left sitting alone in his house at 8pm. I stayed awake all night, stewing over what had taken place. I understood that he may have been tired, but to invite me around in the first place, when a simple phonecall could have saved alot of heartache. I left early that morning, saying very little to him. And then when I tried to call him, he said he was busy entertaining friends and then accused me of being too pushy. Whats my point: NO matter how much we want someone, and for that someone to be everything we want him to be. There will always be a clear signal as to whether or not he feels the same towards you. It broke my heart in the end, because I was chasing someone who was trying to run away. What you seek is something genuine and wonderful Brenton and I wish for it to happen for you, but Please don't wear your heart on your sleeve and end up shattered, should it not be everything you hoped it would. xoxox Sweet Sweet Brenton,

Let me tell you a little story! Immediately after I came out 2005 (June) I met a man who I immediately fell for. He was everything I imagined in a partner. Charming, funny, witty, passionate, understanding (important). He was also very easy on the eye, great smile, physique (not so important to me) We met at my place, he stayed the night.

The following week, I stayed with him. I was smitten. Wanting to spend as much time with him as possible! He worked it Sydney 5 days a week and flew home on Friday evenings for 2 days. I remember the first night I went to visit him. I had to catch the train for an hour, then walk 40 minutes to his apartment. It was cold and raining and I got saturated. His flight was delayed for an hour so I spent even longer in the bad weather. We he finally arrived home in the taxi, he threw me a glance and a smile and it all seemed worthwhile. When we got inside his apartment, he stripped off, invited me to shower with him (of course I indulged being that I was soaked through)

Then without even a whisper he laid down and went immediately off to sleep. No goodnight, would you like a coffee, a water. Here I was, meant to be spending what little quailty time we had together, left sitting alone in his house at 8pm. I stayed awake all night, stewing over what had taken place. I understood that he may have been tired, but to invite me around in the first place, when a simple phonecall could have saved alot of heartache. I left early that morning, saying very little to him. And then when I tried to call him, he said he was busy entertaining friends and then accused me of being too pushy.

Whats my point: NO matter how much we want someone, and for that someone to be everything we want him to be. There will always be a clear signal as to whether or not he feels the same towards you. It broke my heart in the end, because I was chasing someone who was trying to run away. What you seek is something genuine and wonderful Brenton and I wish for it to happen for you, but Please don’t wear your heart on your sleeve and end up shattered, should it not be everything you hoped it would.

xoxox

]]> By: superchilled http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-396 superchilled Wed, 19 Mar 2008 14:01:41 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-396 I think I see then answer written in your post. The answer is the Labrador! You don't need another man to have a labrador, and we all know labs are the most gentle and unconditionally loving creatures. And they tend to attract same... Norten (fellow lab) would love a playmate! I think I see then answer written in your post.
The answer is the Labrador!
You don’t need another man to have a labrador, and we all know labs are the most gentle and unconditionally loving creatures. And they tend to attract same…
Norten (fellow lab) would love a playmate!

]]> By: Timmy http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-395 Timmy Wed, 19 Mar 2008 12:27:50 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-395 Funny that you mention this. Last week there was a repeat of the Sex & The City episode when Berg uses the phrase, "He's just not that into you." It seems that I am usually the one who is smitten but doesn't get the reply e-mail or phone call. However, there have been a couple of instances when I found out later that was someone was smitten with me and I had no idea. Maybe being direct (not abrasive) is the best option or could directness be a turnoff. It's all so complicated. Funny that you mention this. Last week there was a repeat of the Sex & The City episode when Berg uses the phrase, “He’s just not that into you.”

It seems that I am usually the one who is smitten but doesn’t get the reply e-mail or phone call.

However, there have been a couple of instances when I found out later that was someone was smitten with me and I had no idea.

Maybe being direct (not abrasive) is the best option or could directness be a turnoff. It’s all so complicated.

]]> By: Steven. http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-394 Steven. Wed, 19 Mar 2008 11:16:53 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-394 Those who have the power, lead others on - not because they're assholes, but because they can. Those who have the power, lead others on - not because they’re assholes, but because they can.

]]> By: Peter http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-390 Peter Wed, 19 Mar 2008 07:28:21 +0000 http://www.aussielicious.com.au/2008/03/19/smitten-with-an-idea/#comment-390 B. it works both ways, you could be the one who's calling. You've typed all these sentences so there's nothing wrong with your hands. *wink* B. it works both ways, you could be the one who’s calling. You’ve typed all these sentences so there’s nothing wrong with your hands. *wink*

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